I hear it all the time: “JeeJee, I’m blogging, Facebook-ing, Tweetin’ it up, Linkin’ it In, Instagram-ing, and whatever else is new, I’m putting myself out there… and I’m still not gettin’ any clients.”
It’s a pain in the butt, I know. It’s a frustrating place to be. But here’s the secret…
See, the question isn’t “Are you marketing?”…
The question is, when you are marketing… “Are you creating marketing that moves?” Are you creating marketing that moves the emotion, or the “buying brain” of high-paying clients? Basically, does your marketing matter?
Because it doesn’t matter how much you put yourself out there, you can market till the cows come home, but if you’re NOT getting the clients you want, chances are you’re wasting your time with stuff that doesn’t move your clients and isn’t impacting their buying decisions.
Let’s go back to Client Basics 101…
What do clients really want?
Your clients are looking for your help to solve their most pressing problem(s). What’s not working for them inside of their relationships or lack there of? What’s not working for them with their health? What’s not working for them at work? What are they tired of dealing with or wish was different?
While having a presence and putting yourself out there is important, the secret question your clients want answered – the one they don’t even realize they’re thinking about – is this: “Can this person really help me get what I want?”
So the question you should be asking yourself right now is…
Does MY marketing answer that all important question?
Let’s take a deeper look at where you stand on this. Here’s a quick checklist of 4 marketing basics that move high-paying clients into action to work with or buy from you.
1. Marketing copy that generously speaks to problems, benefits & results.
If you want to attract the right clients (Mr. or Ms. Right Client as I like to call them), you must meet them where their minds are at. You must learn to think like your client and language that in your marketing. And where are their minds at you ask? It’s on the stuff that’s keeping them up at 3am.
Let’s say you’re a coach who helps your clients find love and get married. You’d want to focus on the pains, problems, challenges, desires and dreams of people that want to get married, right? And hypothetically if you followed that person around all day do you think you could ascertain what they were going through in their day to day life. Yes? Yes.
Make sure your marketing speaks to exactly that!
2. Your Signature System.
Your clients want to know that you can help them. They want to see that you’ve got a recipe they can follow, and packaging up what you do into a clear step-by-step system instantly conveys that YOU have the recipe to help take them from where they are to where they want to be in the simplest way possible.
Even Aquafina, a popular brand of purified drinking water has a system. When you’re choosing bottled water there are numerous possibilities for what brand you could drink. None of them seem especially different. You think, “How’s Aquafina different from Dasani or Evian?” “Which one is actually better, it’s just water?”
Now I’m not choosing one over the other, and I drink them all from time to time, but Aquafina’s label says that it originates from public water sources and is then purified through a “rigorous, seven-step process called HydRO-7.” Now that does sound important and it does sound like they’ve got a whole lot of the yuck out of that water, right?
Sounds pretty credible to me that I’m drinking some pretty clean water (or at least they’re really making me believe the hype)! It costs a little more at the store but there’s seemingly a “higher quality” to this water. Would that make a difference to a shoppers buying decision… certainly.
And it makes a difference to your client. A system says “we’ve done the work for you, figured things out a bit and we want to make this recipe as easy as possible for you to follow so you can get what you want.”
3. Your expertise.
Clients who are willing to pay higher fees want you to BE the expert (the guide), not a buddy or a peer. You ARE the expert. Are you discounting yourself or are you claiming it?
You might be saying “But JeeJee, who am I to be the expert, I don’t know enough or I don’t have enough experience or I don’t think I’m ready yet.” It’s a very common thing to hear and it is of paramount importance that you get past that as soon as you can because you’ll hold yourself back for months and years if you hold on to it.
When my clients start working with me I immediately help them get past discounting themselves. We unearth the wisdom, accomplishments, knowledge and experience that make them and their work credible and valuable to their clients. If you don’t know your own value, your marketing will reflect it and potential clients will sense it.
4. Give em’ the goods. Be consistent and follow-up with valuable free content that demonstrates your expertise.
If you want clients and you want to fill your programs there needs to be some form of consistent follow-up, like regular newsletters or blog posts people actually want to read. These are stay-in-touch strategies.
Why is this SO important?
First off you’re building a relationship with potential clients by staying in touch. They see that you’re there regularly, tuned into their needs and that you want to help them. And second, your clients are asking themselves things like “can I really trust this person?” and “can they really help me?” and “are they legit?” Staying in touch eases the fears rollin’ around in their monkey mind about getting help from you.
At least do something regularly to stay in touch. Maybe publish a newsletter regularly or send an email pointing them to a new blog post you created each week. The payoff is priceless.
And remember, when you get caught up in all your fears about whether you’re doing this marketing thing right or whether you’re good enough to be the expert, stop thinking about yourself and recognize that you’re in business to help your clients. What you do could change their life!!! Don’t ever forget that! And you can’t help them until they say YES! And they won’t say YES until they know you can help them, ok?
Your mission, should you choose to accept it today is… Stop wasting time worrying about marketing like crazy and create marketing that moves with the 4 basics above – your clients are waiting for you to take their hand and help them get what they want… and will they pay top dollar for that? Yes! So get on with it!
If you’re ready to create “marketing that moves” so you can attract Mr. or Ms. Right Clients, but you’re not sure how, or it just seems ridiculously overwhelming, click here to claim your 1 on 1 Marketing Soul Power Sesh with me right now!!
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What is the “Secret Psychology” of Potential Clients?
To really know what they want you must uncover their biggest challenges, stuck points, pain in the ass problems, juicy dreams & deepest desires.
Let’s look at Relationship & Sexuality Coaching Clients. What do they REALLY want?
Many coaches make the mistake of focusing on what they think clients need and don’t look at what the client truly wants (or at least what the client “thinks” they want).
Even though you think they need to love themselves more, or work on their self esteem, or have some spiritual practices (even though you may totally be right), the client is looking for the result.
We have to meet Mr. or Ms. Right Client where their minds are at.
The great thing is that while you help them get what they think they want (to get their ex back, to find the right partner, to be great in bed, etc.., along the way they always get what they really need (to love themselves, etc.)
Let’s look at an example.
Clients “should want” to have unconditional love in their relationships.
Most people would agree that this would be a very good thing, but this isn’t at the forefront of their minds as something they’re “hungry for.”
What they may be hungry for is having things go back to the way they were in the beginning of their relationship.
They want to fall in love all over again.
They want their relationship to feel fresh, hot and new.
What they “need” may be to love themselves and each other unconditionally, look for the best in each other and not try to change each other.
But, that’s not what they’re gonna buy.
That’s not what’s going to sell.
Those may be the “tools,” but they’re not the results they want.
Truth is, the only reason anyone wants anything is because they believe they will feel good in the having of it.
So what clients are looking for is the feelings and the situations that seem like they’ll create them.
That’s what you want to offer them.
For example: A woman might want to feel “secure” and loved in her relationship. So you may teach: “How to inspire your man’s total devotion to you” to help women connect with their man deeply and emotionally.
Example: A man might want to feel “confident” pleasing his woman in bed. So you may teach: “The secrets to blowing your woman’s mind in bed” to help men understand what their woman really wants and to feel confident satisfying them every time.
Now you try one. Say you’re a “Get Hitched” (Marriage) Coach.
What are the pains, problems, challenges, desires and dreams of people that want to get married? Fill in the blanks…
Bottom line: If you meet them where their minds are, you’ll be able to make irresistible offers that have Mr. or Ms. Right Client eager to invest in your services.
Your call to action: Make a list of your potential clients’ biggest challenges, stuck points, pain in the ass problems, juicy dreams & deepest desires. And then use those words whenever you write or speak.
I hear it all the time from clients and potential clients when I introduce the concept of creating lucrative coaching packages.
Or “I’m so busy already I wouldn’t even know how to make more money and work less. Sounds like a pipe dream.”
Or “I’m worried that by charging my clients for more than a session or a monthly package they won’t pay my fees or I’ll lose their trust.“
You don’t have to bust your brain to design and price a valuable program that clients WANT and will invest in. Designing a transformational program is what you do when you want to express your gifts and be paid well for them.
And in fact clients WILL invest in a “high-end” program and leap tall buildings in a single bound to pay for it… when it’s something they really, really want.
So how do you design a program clients really, really want?
For those of you kinda stuck in per session thinking, here’s a mindset shift.
High-end clients aren’t buying your TIME. Selling your time comes from an employee mentality, and dammit you’re a frickin’ entrepreneur, right?!
Selling your services with the perception that you’re selling your time is why so many phenomenally brilliant coaches struggle to attract clients who actually value them.
My ideal clients are sophisticated learners & achievers. Which simply means I give them the work & they make moves, baby. I love it.
And likely this is a quality you value in your ideal clients because you want them to get results, right?
Well then you need to see them as such and create programs that express that value.
And when you create high end programs, you attract high end sophisticated clients who are committed and invested in their own transformation, and who wow you with great results.
*Don’t get hung up on the word “sophisticated.” I don’t mean uppity or anything like that, just skilled and resourceful at achieving things when given guidance.
Now, let’s look at what high-end clients are actually investing in instead of your time.
#1: They want to create an outcome. They want to solve a real problem their having.
#2: They want speed. They want to move faster than they could on their own.
#3: They want the “How-To.” They like step-by-step. Having a recipe or road map to success appeals to them.
#4: They want your personal attention and access to you. Your energy and attention is important to them. There’s someone taking this journey with them that “gets them” and is there with them through the bumps in the road.
#5: The biggest thing they want is ACCOUNTABILITY!
They are done struggling to do it on their own, and they know their weaknesses in falling back into old habits and holding themselves back. They want help to get it done this time!
Now to the good part.
Here’s 7 secrets to creating a lucrative, high value, transformational coaching offer that delivers all of this and more.
1. Choose ONE Primary Outcome
Ex: Find Your Soulmate Platinum Program
Your call to action: Make a big list of all the juicy RESULTS possible from your program!
2. Include CONTENT
3. Decide on your SERVICE DELIVERY
Ex: Include an intensive experience like a VIP Day or VIP weekend Retreat
Get momentum going with your new client by starting with a visioning/kick off session to establish goals and outcomes.
4. Always include ACCOUNTABILITY and ACCESS to you
Include Private sessions/Laser Coaching Calls
Ex: 4-6 private sessions over 90 days
Bonus Tip: Set clear boundaries around access to you, including when you get to people via email or phone calls. And don’t over coach in your sessions.
5. Include easy to create BONUSES & CONTENT
Ex: Recordings of Sessions, email access or info products
Bonus Tip: Don’t overstuff your BONUSES! You don’t need to prove your worth or value with STUFF!
6. Decide on your PRICING
Always give clients two pricing options: Full Pay and Monthly
7. Give clients a REASON to take action NOW
Reserve a juicy BONUS for those decisive folks who are done putting off solving their problem and are ready to say yes to your program NOW
Ex: Include a savings or bonus for those who choose FULL-PAY
Your call to action today: Get busy creating your high value program. Don’t try to be perfect or think too hard about it, just follow these simple steps and start offering it! If you get stuck and need my help creating yours let’s talk.
In lieu of my upcoming free training “Irresistible Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y or Annoying!” I wanted to give my loyal subscribers some great tips each day leading up to this special call.
I thought why not share this juicy info with the peeps who’ve popped onto my website. They might want the goods too!
It is also my intention to make this free training call the best, most valuable version of this talk I’ve done thus far.
It’s always been one of my most well received training’s and well… I want it to be better than ever.
So here’s what I want to do for you.
#1. What’s the biggest problem you’re having with selling your services/enrolling new clients?
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Now on to the tip of the day.
Irresistible Selling Tip of The Day:
Never go into a conversation with a potential client with the thought of trying to “close a sale.”
Instead your intention is to help people “open up into what is possible in their life.”
You are not closing the sale, you are giving them a CHOICE.
And the best selling (enrollment) conversations occur when the potential client talks themselves into working with you.
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They have such a passion for what they do and really care about making a difference, but alas they struggle with BEing themselves.
I struggled with this for many years in my business endeavors, with the exception of when I was an adult party planner selling sex toys and offering up some good sexucation.
I was me on high.
I often wanted to be one of the people in my audiences so that I could enjoy the hilariousness of me.
I was fun, I was knowledgeable and I was ME.
People who were too embarrassed to talk about sex all of a sudden came out of their shell, people who were quiet and shy became lively and interactive, and no one felt they had a dumb sex question, they asked away feeling free from judgment by me.
This is what being yourself allows others to do.
When I got into helping entrepreneurs build their businesses, specifically spiritually-minded entrepreneurs I actually hid what I was doing from friends and family.
I hid my spiritual side because I was afraid of being judged about being “woo-woo or weird.”
I censored my posts when I would write for my blog.
I didn’t sprinkle any curse words into my writing for amusement.
I kept taking down Facebook page after Facebook page because I didn’t want to leave a trail for family and friends who had asked to “friend me” so they wouldn’t find out I was leading a double life so to speak.
I know you get me.
We’re scared to be real in our lives and businesses because it makes us vulnerable.
We think we won’t be taken seriously if we’re ourselves.
We think we won’t be accepted, or we’ll be judged.
We want to be liked and loved and too often we just say “F*ck it” and retreat back into what feels normal.
But as we feel emptier and emptier the more we look outside of ourselves for love and approval we hit that painful place where hiding who we are just doesn’t feel good anymore. And to that I say “F*ck that!”
Not being yourself not only hurts you but it hurts your business.
It’s scary admittedly, but I promise you it’s worth it.
Recently I was immersed in a seminar with a small group of intellectual/spiritual people.
I know when many think “spiritual,” all these cliché thoughts of what spiritual people are like come to mind, but these people were anything but stereotypical.
They were frickin’ hilarious.
They were real.
Even with our differences we had so much in common.
We had some of the most enlightening conversations, some of the weirdest and some of the raunchiest.
We were silly, playful and deep all within the breath of a week’s time.
I think our spiritual sides just make us more of who we really are and for me that’s: fun, funny, creative, confident, sensual, frisky, playful, smart, intuitive, prosperous, etc.…
Everyone won’t love you or like you but that’s perfectly fine, because the right ones will show up that love you and want to work with you.
And the best way to start attracting more IDEAL clients that love you is for you to just BE YOU!
Let your personality come through in your marketing, whether you’re speaking, emailing or writing, be yourself.
Here are 5 quick tips to help you just DO YOU:
#1 Who are you?
Are you an extrovert or introvert?
Are you funny, quirky and lighthearted? Or Perhaps more serious and deep?
Whatever you are, own it.
Stop trying to be or do what everyone else is doing, DO YOU.
Granted you can learn from what other successful people in your industry are doing but then you’ve got to add YOUR own style to it.
When I learn new dance moves, I take the basics I’m taught and once I’m comfortable with the moves I put my own JeeJee flavor on it and anyone who watches me dance knows exactly what JeeJee flavor looks like.
#2 Stop trying to market like everyone else.
The best biz “Guru” on the planet could show you his system and how it’s worked for these “x” people but that doesn’t mean its right for you.
You need to ask yourself these important questions before you go around replicating what others are doing or buying that next program or hiring that coach.
#3 Stop “needing” other people to tell you what to do.
I get it, we often get caught up in “Oh, if I could just get somebody to tell me what to do, then I’d be successful.”
Sure we all need someone to guide us from time to time especially in matters of business, but the truth is no one could ever know what is truly best for you than you.
Get support, but at the end of the day always make sure to check in with your #1 mentor, your inner guidance.
And if you do get a mentor make sure they’re a person who would remind you to check in with your inner guidance.
#4 Stop having the “This is the thing that’s going to change my life” mindset.
Often people get so excited about the new program they’re taking or new product they’re buying or the new coach they’re hiring thinking “this is going to be it, this is going to be the thing that changes my life and business and makes me butt loads of money.”
Often you end up disappointed when you don’t get the exact results you were looking for.
See, there is no “This is it, magic pill.”
Sure, you can have some success, but we’re ever-changing beings and there is really nothing that is going to change your whole life forever more.
There will be always be another thing, another person, another venture and another idea.
In truth YOU are the thing that continually changes your life and you do it moment by moment.
All the other people and stuff you think are changing your life are just actors, props and materials you created to make this game of life more fun, challenging or easy, and more real for you.
Truer words were never spoken.
You are creating the game that is your life and all the rules though sometimes you pretend you are not.
#5 Stop giving a Shiznit about what others will think.
Sitting around trying to please everybody or trying to say the right things all the time will keep you stuck in your life and business.
Learn it now… Happiness is a damn INSIDE JOB! (Written in big letters to also remind myself!)
When you understand this you’ll realize that happiness is your own responsibility.
You can let go of needing to be liked, loved, or right.
You can also let go of needing to prove yourself and live up to everyone’s expectations.
Granted, being liked, praised and appreciated is nice but if you always look for it outside of yourself you will end up sadly disappointed.
No one can stand on their heads in enough ways to please you all the time and neither can you.
Love and acceptance is not OUT THERE, it is WITHIN.
And when you love, like, accept and approve of yourself just the way you are, it won’t matter what anyone else thinks because the right people will show up in your life and the others will go the other way.
Your Call to Action! Tell me, what’s holding you back from being yourself, what are you afraid of?
Take some time today to consider what’s awesome about you and why it’s great to be you.
Then consider one action step you can take this week to let that shine through in your marketing.
How will you DO YOU BOO?
I often hear great coaches express their distaste around doing or even being on the receiving end of a strategy/breakthrough/discovery/free session.
There’s a feeling that there’s something inauthentic about these conversations and that somehow the person they’re talking to is going to see them as sales-y, pushy or all about the money.
I get it.
I felt that way too.
I used to worry about what the other person would think of me.
I worried if they were just waiting for me to ask for the sale.
I worried if they’d reject me, think I was good enough or wonder whether I knew enough to help them.
I let self-judgment get in the way.
But I’ve now been in the world of sales for years.
I’ve worked in direct sales, distributor sales, one on one sales, I’ve been a telemarketer, I’ve done cold calling, and I’ve done inside and outside sales calls.
I’ve had 100’s upon hundreds of sales conversations and in fact I’ve come to love a sales conversation because sales conversations are transformational and if you do them right they become transformational transactions.
Nowadays however I’m not selling penises (yes I sold sex toys), or parts for airplanes or offices (yes I sold other kinds of parts too), I’m selling the invisible.
You can’t take this kind of thing home and make love to it or hammer it into a hole. (You’ll never know how many sexual innuendos there are until you sell parts, there are little female screws, male screws and all kinds of other names I’m assuming men made up when they started selling parts, it’s hilarious… but I digress).
I remember my very first discovery session with a potential coaching client, I didn’t even get an offer out of my mouth because I’d helped her solve her problem.
I did it ass backwards.
I didn’t want to be seen as salesy or all about the money so instead I just coached.
But hell if you never talk about money you don’t get to have it.
A closed mouth doesn’t eat.
So I had to learn the psychology behind what I was trying to accomplish in these sessions.
I know you’re saying, “JeeJee but I don’t have a background in sales, this isn’t natural for me.”
I hear ya…
You’ve got to understand why you’re doing it, believe in why you’re doing it and have the opportunities to DO it over and over again until it does become natural!
No background in sales required.
So let’s look at the psychology of a free session.
What is the purpose of a free session?
The number one reason is to create change.
You are there to help someone create change.
You’re there to help them get into action.
And no, action doesn’t always necessarily mean they DO something it can be an inner action as well, but getting them to move forward in some way, whether they hire you or not IS the purpose.
We want them to take action that will help them long term and yes hiring you may very well be that action.
A really good free session also serves to awaken and bring clarity to what’s going on below the surface for your potential client.
Potential clients need to tune in to what they want and what’s getting in their way, and your job is to help them discover that for themselves with QUESTIONS.
Often the answers to these questions are something they’ve never really let themselves truly think about or tell another person.
A good session creates a space where people allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to see that their pain is no longer tolerable.
A well-crafted conversation, though strategic, also allows for your intuition so that you stay present and in the moment with a potential client.
If you’re doing it right you’ll be able to “coach” them to use their own guidance to see that what you have to offer is exactly what they need right now.
What a free session is NOT…
A free session is not about solving all your client’s problems in one session.
You are not there to prove the value of coaching and you can’t solve all they’re problems in one session anyway.
There is no need to play Superhero Coach to try to prove to them that you’re worthy and that they should work with you.
Who’s gonna need you if they feel like you’ve given them all the information they need to do this on their own?
For example, if you are a weight loss coach you can’t help someone lose 50 pounds in one session.
That would probably be really painful if you could.
True LASTING transformation takes time, period.
A free session is also not to be used as a HOPE strategy where you hope they’ll sign up with you.
We do not go into a session with needy energy.
DON’T NEED A CLIENT!
Yes we want to gain new clients and make money, but needy energy is repellant.
Show up in the energy of service with the intention that you’re on a treasure hunt to see if this client is someone you’d love to work with and if they are, then you naturally guide them to discover for themselves that you’re the solution to their problem(s).
You can learn to do this and I can help. Click here<<<
Free sessions are so valuable.
They are an absolute gift for someone.
Adopt a mindset that says “working with me is a gift of transformation.”
Tell yourself “If they’ve called me, it’s my time!”
Feel curious. Your meeting someone new and you get to ask them questions. It’s fun!
Be relaxed, welcoming, embracing and excited.
Your coaches request…
Get clear and write down the answers to the following:
What would your business look like if you had…
How much would this increase your income?
What would you have to believe is true about yourself in order for this to be a reality?
What is one action you will take today?
Be bold and share your gifts.
Your peeps are waiting for you.
We know that succeeding in life requires going outside our comfort zone.
But the trick is NOT to go full steam ahead into the lion’s den.
If you do this on a regular basis, soon what you thought was terrifying, like doing discovery sessions, asking for the sale, putting yourself out there, etc., will seem natural, easy and even common.
There really is no such thing as failure, ONLY feedback.
Now don’t get me wrong you can’t just move outside of your comfort zone without working on that monkey mind of yours.
You might make some progress, but that monkey mind loves familiarity and has a tendency to try to pull you right back to where you feel comfortable rather quickly.
Here’s an exercise that I love to help you train your mind to be on your side when you find yourself in situations that make you feel fear.
Granted this is an after the fact strategy but you’ll soon see it’s benefit.
It’s called the Daily Review.
During our days even if we’ve scripted them first thing in the morning or set intentions before hand, we seldom get EXACTLY what we want out of our daily situations, so reviewing things after the fact can be of great benefit.
So here’s how it works.
Take some time after the event and recall what you wanted to achieve.
Let’s say you had a discovery session that you wanted to end in a new enrolled client.
Now compare that to what you actually achieved.
Let’s say you held the discovery session and they said “I need to think about it.”
Now, whatever you did well, give yourself credit for and PURPOSELY feel strong feelings of appreciation and gratitude for the action you took.
I mean you had the guts to get on the phone with this person, maybe you asked some powerful questions, maybe you offered a great service, maybe for the first time you didn’t feel so queasy when you talked about the amount of the investment…
Whatever it is give yourself a pat on the back, you deserve it. You took action.
Now here’s the fun part that changes the game.
Think of something you could have done differently, then simply imagine that situation as if you had done things differently.
Lets say that you recognize once you get off the call that maybe the reason your potential client needs to think about it is because you jumped in and started trying to solve all the clients problems right on the call instead of using a Discovery Session for what it is intended for…
Not problem solving.
That’s what your services are for after the fact.
None the less, you realize this and you feel appreciation, as if you had done things differently.
In your mind see yourself getting a much better result, and feel gratitude for that result as if it actually happened.
This exercise will slowly rebuild in you that childlike feeling of excitement, appreciation and CURIOSITY whenever you find yourself in a new situation (or one that hasn’t gone well in the past).
You’ll be rewiring your brain to see opportunity instead of potential failure if you’ll be consistent with this exercise.
And because you’ll be feeling strong feelings of gratitude and appreciation for both positive action taken, and positive action you could have taken, you’ll be shifting your decision making process in your favor.
I love this exercise.
Not only does it feel good to see things turning out in your favor, it really gives you the confidence to stop worrying about outcomes in the first place because you start to realize that you CAN feel good anyway.
And at the end of the day that’s what we really want.
We want the money so we can feel good.
We want the relationship(s) so we can feel good.
We want the health so we can feel good.
We want… insert thing here.
At the end of the day we want to feel relief or contentment or joy or ease or accomplished…
Basically we want to feel good.
And when we’re feeling good the universe lines us up with the components we need so we can have what we want ie., the money, relationships, health, etc.
However we can’t do that if we’re always caught up in our fears.
Want to go deeper & obliterate more of those old sticky fears permanently?
I’ve got the tools.
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Most people are likely talking about their New Year’s Resolutions.
But if you know me, you know how I feel about those.
The momentum of doing it differently this year fades within 60 to 90 days and then you’re back to square one.
You made a little progress in your life and business but things still seem to look the same way they did last year.
Different faces, different places but same stuff.
You’ve heard the saying, “Same shit, different day.”
Are you living a “Same shit, different year?”
Well your future self wanted me to give you this gift as you move into 2016 so that you can finally make peace with yourself and stop dragging WHAT WAS into your future again and again.
In the actual movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray playing the infamous character Phil, wakes up day in and day out to the same experiences.
Long story short, Phil after many days of trying to kill himself, trying to make the female producer Rita fall in love with him and failing at attempt after attempt to make any real change that made it through to the next day…
He stops resisting.
He finally begins to live.
Having the luxury of being stuck in his own drama until he finally surrenders and chooses to live each day as a world unto itself he is transformed.
You’ve had this luxury and now its time to stop resisting WHAT IS and transform 2016 FOR REAL this time!
Here are 11 Things Your Future Self Wants You To Know In 2016:
1. You will fail sometimes and make mistakes and it’s OK.
You will keep moving forward taking “aligned” action.
There are no winners or losers, you will either win or learn.
Seeming failure is only feedback and offers the opportunity, as Henry Ford said, to begin again more intelligently.
2. You must have fun, laugh more, and infuse that into your work.
You will not sacrifice your happiness for some expected future reward.
This is the secret to keeping your intuition sharp, your creativity high and enjoying a much more effortless ride along the way!
3. You must be yourself.
Seeking approval is so last year.
It’s cool to be loved, appreciated, liked and marketable but remember the people “out there” aren’t the source of your love, happiness or approval, it’s all an inside job.
4. You must create structure in your business, period.
Though some of this will seem like you’re flying by the seat of your pants, you’ll be so happy not to have to reinvent the wheel for clients.
You’ll be happy when you begin to delegate things to others because you’ve created clear systems that help things flow more easily.
And you’re clients will feel more confident and trusting of your guidance to help them get to where they want to be.
5. You must forgive yourself and others.
Forgive yourself for the things you regret, feel guilty about, etc.
Stop beating up on yourself about everything.
Oh and have the guts to forgive others too, they are simply a mirror for you.
The ones that you really feel don’t deserve forgiveness will be your greatest teachers.
They are the ones who finally force you to look within and remind you that you are not separate.
Separation is an illusion.
Everything is energy and you’re connected to it all.
Forgiveness is not something you do for the others sake, it is an extreme act of self-love.
This year you can must forgive. Let go of the energies that are holding you back from success.
6. Negative emotion is your friend too.
You won’t always be a happy camper every single moment of everyday.
Challenges do come up and our first responses aren’t always “Yay, this is so frickin’ awesome!”
You may have a moment when you behave “out of character” so to speak, or you think for far to long about how you’d like to punch so and so’s lights out, but it will all pass.
Don’t try to resist your negative emotions.
What you resist always persists and grows larger.
Negative emotion simply tells you where you’re at in your connection or lack there of with your Source.
This year you can master your emotions instead of denying or trying to ignore them.
7. You must have support.
You won’t do this alone.
Find a mentor or two that you REALLY vibe with that will hold you accountable to what you want.
That person who will help keep you on track with the necessary inner and outer work when you feel like you’re losing your way.
The one who will be there when life gets in the way (or you get in your own way).
The one who will help you remember who you are, hold your vision and help you shift energy when you’re afraid to take action.
Also, surround yourself with kick-ass peeps who have similar goals, big dreams and are committed to manifesting their desires just like you.
The journey is much more fun when you have awesome people who get you traveling this road with you.
8. Stop worrying all the time.
If you think about it, the reason you usually feel bad is because there’s a thought you’re attached to.
As Byron Katie of The Work says, ask yourself if that thought is really the truth, and then ask yourself “Who would I be without this thought?”
You’ll be surprised how much lighter you feel and how much more energy you’ll have when you stop believing every thought that comes into your mind.
9. Money is just energy.
It is not an indicator of your worthiness, but an indicator of how worthy YOU feel.
You will have a breakthrough this year with money because you will have a breakthrough with yourSELF once and for all.
You will have the inner game and the outer plan to create the income you want this year.
10. The greatest relationship you’ll need to tend to this year is the one you have with yourself PERIOD.
This year you will accept yourself just as you are, even if some others don’t.
You will love yourself even if you make mistakes.
You will treat yourself well.
You will trust that you are guided and take chances on yourself.
You will stop worrying about what others may think and put yourself out there in the marketplace because there are those who really need the gifts and talents you bring this year and it is your souls desire to help them.
11. Fear will not take you out.
It’s just your ego’s way of trying to keep you safe.
This year you will not only come to have a healthy relationship with yourself, you will have a healthy relationship with fear.
You will not try to push it way.
You will not pretend it doesn’t exist.
You will not try to force yourself to act through it.
Instead you’ll know how to turn that feeling of fear into a feeling of excitement.
You will learn how to transform your fears this year so you can be consistent and profitable in your business.
In fact, JeeJee is going to help you with this one now.
Click here to reserve your spot for her BRAND NEW training call “7 Steps for Moving Through Fear & Doubt for More Profit, Purposeful Productivity and Peace of Mind!“
Remember “Current Me,” you can ask me anytime you want about next steps and I will gladly share.
I know it sounds cliche and you’ve said it year after year that “this year is going to be different,” but my dear this time it’s absolutely true.
This year is going to be very different… if you’re willing.
Your next step my dear… Be on that call with JeeJee.
If you can learn to navigate your fears you will win and learn big time in 2016!
Click here to register for this powerful call.
Here’s to a Happy New Year and a Happy New You
Your Future Self…
We often get into relationships with the false notion that somehow they’ll make us whole.
And we often get into business with a similar false notion. That they’ll make us free.
And that once we get the clients and the money and the love we can finally be happy.
We think that’s the end game and when we reach it all will be well.
The new glow of love in this exciting adventure often quickly fades and the honeymoon is over just as quickly as it began.
All the things we thought were so wonderful about this person is eroded by our projections, judgments and old stories.
All the things we thought were going to be so wonderful in our business takes on a similar feel.
We bring our old fears, old stories, hurts, wounds and insecurities and we think that if we’ll learn some special marketing techniques or read a few spiritual books we’ll know exactly what to do to turn things around.
And we’re as willing as ever to take action to do what it takes… except when we’re not.
But what happens when NOTHING seems to work?
With as much as you know and as smart and as spiritual and as brilliant and bad-ass as you are…
What do you do?
What do you do when it seems that you just don’t have control?
As much as you think you’re being positive, and having faith… truth is you’re still afraid.
You’re afraid of your own mind.
Not to mention the “others” out there.
You’re afraid of what they think too, even though you pretend you’re not.
You’ve learned that there’s nothing to fear except fear itself.
And now you’re afraid of yourself.
You secretly think that somewhere in the recesses of your mind there’s something from your past lurking there waiting to sabotage you at a moments notice.
You’re a very aware person, but…
You’re still waiting for the other shoe to drop.
No matter how much you believe the old adage that you are whole and wise, somehow you still unconsciously believe there’s something broken within you and if you could just find out what it is and let it go things would be ok, right?
If you could just do some vibrational surgery and rip that sh*t out that’s holding you back all would be right in your world, right?
I mean look at the results you’re getting, something has to be wrong with you, right?
It seems that now not only are you struggling with your business, you’re struggling with yourself.
AND THE HARDER YOU TRY, THE HARDER YOUR BUSINESS GETS.
Have you noticed?
The harder you struggle, the more you have to struggle.
The harder you try to control yourself or your conditions on the outside, the more crazy you go on the inside.
You try to put a band-aid over your fears about money and being visible, pretending to be happy and then taking action in your marketing or then offering that program and then… NOTHING.
All your efforts seem for naught.
One of the most debilitating mental, emotional and physical blocks people experience on a daily basis stems from a belief that they must tolerate their daily suffering.
They must do what they gotta do, cause that’s what the world says is the right way to do things.
But if it’s true that what you resist persists, then your suffering must continue no matter what kinds of action you take.
The struggle IS REAL as long as you keep feeding it.
Meeting resistance with more resistance, will only make it grow stronger inside.
If you try to push your gremlins away (i.e. feed them by resisting them) they WILL multiply.
Suffering always arises when we avoid what is painful (or what we “think” is painful) or become too attached to what is pleasurable.
The real purpose of pain and pleasure is to tell us when we are (and are not) present to this Infinite Source within ourselves.
Fear is the most paralyzing force in the game.
Everything you are afraid to experience whether in a relationship or a business makes you a spectator instead of a participant in your dreams.
The greatest ephiphany of your life will happen the instant you stop and unravel your relentless inner saboteur.
What it comes down to is this…
You have to create a healthy relationship with what you FEAR.
And that means a deep deep dive into the recesses of YOU.
It’s a journey into the parts you haven’t been willing to BE with.
The parts you’ve left unloved.
The parts you don’t consciously accept about yourself.
The parts you resist.
This is an emotional journey you have to take if you want any of the action you take to make any difference for you.
This won’t be about trying to “control” your fears or trying to ACT calm in the face of your fears because that simply doesn’t work.
Sometimes we have to go into the eye of the storm to really find the peace that passes understanding.
It’s not easy to stop the addiction of struggling and resisting your good but you can do it.
If there are people who can give up their addictions to drugs and alcohol then you can give up your addiction to struggle.
And I’m going to show you how.
This is going to be a transformational journey like no other.
It’s not for the faint of heart however, but if you’re tired of being tired, and you’re up at 3am letting your fears EAT YOU ALIVE (and I mean that literally cause I’ve been there) when you should be resting peacefully than I think the choice will be very clear.
Stay tuned over the next post to see what I’m cooking up just for you.
Talk really really soon,