10 Common (Monkey Mind) Excuses Keeping You from Getting A Paid Client (Excuses 7-10)

Excuses-JeeJee-SaafirLast time we talked I went through some pretty important excuses that if not checked will most certainly keep you from getting a paid client.

Here they are for review:

#4 I don’t know enough, I’m not good enough (All the not enough excuses!)

#5 With so many coaches out there why would anyone hire me?

#6 Is this audience the right audience for who I am?

If you missed excuses 4-6 you can read the whole article by clicking here.

So here we are at the final four excuses that are keeping you from getting a paid client.

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Excuse #7: I don’t feel comfortable charging higher rates

I get it, it can be scary at first to charge higher rates.

You worry that you’ll miss out on business, or lose business, that you may get a lot of objections, that you’ll appear greedy, etc.

You’re also afraid of being judged, afraid that people will think you’re only about the money, and you have the same mental tape running about “who am I,” “and I’m not enough, so how can I justify these fees.”

Well you’re not evil or greedy and I’ll bet your work is worth more than you give it credit for.

But unless you understand the real value of what you do, you’ll stay stuck undercharging and over giving.

Click here to uncover “Why you’re not greedy for charging higher fees and 6 reasons that undercharging hurts your business.”

I can help you uncover the immense value you bring to clients and help you dissolve your fears of charging more.

Click here and let’s chat about how I can help.

Excuse #8: I hate sales.

Truth be told, the #1 reason coaches often hate selling ISN’T because they’re afraid of rejection.

To the contrary.

The #1 reason coaches hate selling is because they don’t want to be seen as pushy, slimy or sales-y.”

We’ve been conditioned to put our guard up whenever salespeople approach us.

We’ve come to believe that most salespeople are untrustworthy, manipulative and all about the almighty dollar.

While it’s true that those type of people do exist, it’s also true that you don’t have to be or feel like one of them.

But let’s be real for a second.

You’re not just a coach, you’re a business owner, and businesses make PROFIT right?

If you can’t sustain yourself you can’t help many people can you?

There’s a saying that goes, “It’s hard to shine your light, when you’re struggling to pay the light bill.”

See the truth is that this is about transformation, not trying to sell someone something.

Selling is not something you do TO a person it’s something you do FOR them!

The only reason you should actually care that someone buys from you or hires you is because you know it will help them.

If you don’t offer your services, no one gets the transformation their seeking.

Not your potential client and not you.

You want to do what you love and be profitable right? Right.

Selling is a skill you will want to feel confident about.

Need help upleveling your sales skills? Click here to chat about how I can help you.

Excuse #9 What if they ask for their money back?

In general when you provide private coaching services it’s a non-refundable agreement.

I’ve often offered a 30 day happiness guarantee if it’s a short term intensive program, or if it’s a VIP Day, they have til’ the next half of our session begins to let me know they aren’t satisfied and get their investment back. Never ever happened. Ever…

But with private coaching there generally is no refund. My time, energy and expertise is non-refundable so money is non-refundable.

You’ll want to make sure you state this clearly in your terms and conditions.

You should have a general coaching agreement that they sign before you begin your work together.

You’ll want to state clearly what happens if either of you wish to cancel the agreement early.

If they are seriously not happy working with you, they are under no obligation to continue and you’re under no obligation to refund their money.

Don’t sit around worrying about people asking for refunds.

Set your intention before every session with a client that they will find value in your work together and the perfect words will fall from your mouth, your heart and your mind.

All will be well.

Now onto the head honcho of all excuses and probably the most common monkey mind thought that will keep a paying client away like magic…

Drum roll please…

Excuse #10 “It’s Hard to Get Clients”

If thoughts become things, what thing to you think you’re creating with this thought?

No damn clients much?

If you’ve constantly got that tape playing in your mind that says “it’s hard to get clients,” or “moving someone from a free session into becoming a paid client is hard,” or “who’s gonna pay me for this in this economy,” guess what you’re gonna get?

Plenty of evidence that it IS hard and that no one will pay for your services in this economy.

Your mind is like a seeing eye dog, it is trained to look for whatever you’re focused on.

You’re totally asking yourself the wrong questions and thinking the wrong thoughts when it comes to your business.

All thoughts have a frequency and these kind go out and attract back to you in kind.

You can’t beat the Law of Attraction, it’s constant. It works 24/7 period.

Your business and all other aspects of your life are a perfect reflection of the internal stories you tell yourself on a daily basis, whether you realize you are telling them or not.

You’ll have to look at your fears here. The same one’s we looked at in excuse #4.

Thoughts like “it’s hard to get clients,” have self-judging thoughts attached to them.

Thoughts like “What if I fail?” “What if I don’t get enough clients?” “What if I’m rejected?” and the list goes on.

What do you think you’re going to attract with that negative internal chatter?

I’ll wait…

Now you don’t need to beat up on yourself about this.

Awareness is your greatest gift.

When we realize what we’re doing then we can start to reprogram, rewire, repattern, release and realign.

And you’re not alone. I can help you.

Click here to chat.

Now you can see why so many great coaches struggle to get clients.

It’s because of all the wonderful excuses that fill their head.

Which one’s will you let go of today?

Share with me in the comments below.

10 Common (Monkey Mind) Excuses Keeping You from Getting A Paid Client (Excuses 4-6)

Excuses-No-Paying-ClientsWelcome back! Last time we talked I walked you through 3 sneaky sabotaging excuses that are keeping you from getting a paid client.

They were:

#1 People can do this on their own…

#2 Can I really get them the results I promise?

#3 My audience doesn’t have any money…

If you missed Excuses 1-3 you can read the whole article by clicking here.

Let’s jump right back in and talk about 3 more really great excuses (and by really great, I mean you’re monkey mind is great at helping you use them) keeping you from getting a paying client.

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Excuse #4 I don’t know enough, I’m not good enough (All the “not enough” excuses!)

If you’ve been in the planning stages FOREVER, you might want to look at your unconscious motives.

If you’ve been stuck in the planning phase of your business for a while now, I think you know that at some point you’re going to have to take action to get things moving.

There’s only so much reading, researching, studying and planning you can do. 

Don’t be afraid when I talk about action.

Most of it will be inner action, but you know there’s some practical outer actions you have to take too.

Inspired action is what you’re reaching for.

You just can’t keep “being busy.”

Busy does not necessarily equal clients.

At some point you’ve just gotta get behind the wheel and learn to drive by… driving!

There’s something more important than thinking you need to learn one more thing and that’s… IMPLEMENTATION.

Granted you’ll still want to learn new things along the way, but you can’t keep waiting before you start.

So if you find yourself taking another class or reading another book or searching for the golden ring online, I would suggest that you look at your motives.

What are you afraid of?

Here’s a snippet of some deep questions from an exercise I UBER love by Hans Phillips.

I would suggest you ask yourself.

These aren’t pretty questions but it will make you more aware of what survival mechanisms you’re using that are holding you back.

Here they are…

  1. What are you afraid people are going to find out or decide about you? (e.g., “I’m weird, unlovable, unworthy, undeserving, lazy and stupid)


  1. If people found out that you were any or all of the above, what do you think would happen to you? (e.g., “I’d be abandoned, rejected, humiliated, thrown out.”)


  1. What do you do so that people don’t find out or decide that you are (fill in the blank with answers from question 1)______,________, _________, __________? These “doings” may include thinking, feeling or physical responses, for instance, “I get sick, I feel guilty that I’m not good enough, I think about ways to better myself.” This also includes things that are generally considered actions. I laugh a lot, I procrastinate, I look busy, I ride my bike and do other physical activity, I meditate.

 And here’s where you give those vulnerable answers:

  1. What I do so that people don’t find out or decide this about me is I… 

These are all the ways you cover up your fears. These are your survival mechanisms. It’s time to have the courage to embrace your fears.

It’s time to thrive not just survive.

The topic of “Fear” has become one of my favorite subjects and I’ve come with arms outstretched to help you through.

Click here to chat with me.

Excuse #5 With so many coaches out there why would anyone hire me?

I get it. It seems like everywhere you look everybody and their momma is a coach, especially if you scour the internet.

You’ll see that coaching peeps abound.

It’s true, coaching is a booming industry, but the question is why?

Do you think it’s simply for the money?

Well money is one important piece.

But where you find coaches you’ll often find people who are seeking freedom.

Who want to live life on their own terms.

You’ll truly find people who want to make a difference in the world.

You’ll find people with wonderful gifts who feel they’ve just got to share.

You’ll find a deep desire to help people transform their lives.

Granted you’ll find some jackholes in any industry but those people are few and far between and you need not concern yourself with them.

Do you know how many lawyers, doctors, teachers, and other professions exist on this planet.

I don’t hear anyone worrying that any of those industries are saturated?

Why? Because for some “odd” reason people feel we need them…

Well it looks like the world is saying yes to coaches too. We need you!

Statistically those other professions still exceed the number of coaches there currently are anyway.

So you need not worry, the coaching profession isn’t going anywhere.

When you’re a new coach however, I can understand your concern about this.

You look around and see all the top coaches partnering with each other, sharing each others work with the masses and you think “Why in the hell would anyone listen to me or open my emails when they’ve got all these superstars in their inbox everyday?

It can feel like they’ve got the coaching game sewed up, but I promise you they don’t.

You don’t have to wait til’ the superstars die off or wait til’ you think you’ve got all your shit together to help people.

If you need to get past that, I’ve written a great article to help you called “5 Ways You Help Clients Even When You Think “I’m Not Perfect Yet”.

Show me someone who’s got all their shit together every moment of every day and I’ll show you a person who’s not really livin!’

But besides all this we have to take into consideration how the world is changing.

People are more open and aware than ever and we have to give some credit to the coaching industry for ushering in this new age of self-awareness and consciousness.

People want to feel on purpose in their lives.

They are more aware than ever that they’ve been getting in their own way, and if they could just find someone to help them get past these fears and back into aligned action, oh how their life would change.

You my dear are unique. You’re not exactly like anyone else and you never need to pretend you are.

Not to make yourself more marketable, more likeable, more loveable, more worthy, more nothing.

It’s just a matter of you accepting and sharing your own personal story with your audience/tribe/peeps.

And besides if you have the desire within you to coach and facilitate transformation then the Universe has the path to bring to you everything you need to do that… and that means clients just for YOU!!!

Clients who are a match for you.

Which brings me to good ol’ Excuse #6… “Is this audience the right audience for who I am?

Just because there are an abundance of people who may need your help, that doesn’t mean they’re all YOUR ideal clients.

They most certainly ALL are NOT!

Imagine for a moment that your coaching practice was full of clients, but they were all the “wrong” clients.

And by wrong I mean, they were demanding, expected you to do all the work, super needy, no sense of humor, didn’t respect your time, didn’t do the work, etc.

You know the ones.

What if you’re coaching biz was full of headache, pain in the ass clients?

They’d drain your energy.

You’d end up resenting them.

You’d end up resenting your work.

You’d end up resenting yourself.

It would suck the life and passion out of you quickly.

You’re job… To get as clear as you can from where you currently are as to who you’d LOVE to work with.

You DO get to choose, you know.

You want people who are a match to who you are.

You want people who fuel your passion for what you do.

You want those who inspire you to do your best work.

You want those help you transform through helping them.

You want those who crack you the hell up. :-)

There are things to put in place so that you know before-hand whether someone might be a fit for you or not.

Need help figuring out who your Soul Clients are? Click here.

Wanna skip the do-it-yourself method and get yourself a coach ‘cause you get the priceless value of coaching for yourself?

Let me help you.

Click here to apply for a private 1-on-1 30 minute “Income Breakthrough Strategy Session!” at no cost to you and let’s put you on the path to no more excuses, just paying clients!







10 Common (Monkey Mind) Excuses Keeping You from Getting A Paid Client (Excuses 1-3)


So we know you’re brilliant, talented, and have life experience that makes you a unique asset to others.

You know you can coach others with what you know right now, but something is stopping you from making an offer.

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Even though you want this to work with every fiber of your being and you know you can help people you’re sabotaging yourself.

You come up with all sorts of excuses to justify your behavior and getting your first or next client is starting to seem like a pipe dream.

Well, if this sounds like you keep reading because in this series I’m going to help you solve this problem for good.

Excuse #1

People can do this on their own

You’ve no doubt heard the old saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,” right?

When your growing your coaching business there’s a common Monkey Mind thought that goes “Why would people hire me when they could just get this information for free?”

While it’s true that someone could just hop on “Google” or “YouTube” to learn about virtually anything they want (and trust me I certainly have) in most instances it’s just not enough.

A good coach like you does more than just provide information.

You’re more than just an accountability buddy and a motivator.

You help people break the self-sabotage cycle (you know the cycle you’re quite familiar with yourself).

You help people overcome limiting beliefs that break though the barriers that are holding them back.

You help people get back on track when they hit a wall and feel like giving up.

You’re aware of the value of coaching, but if you can’t “see” that value for yourself you’ll keep worrying that others won’t see it and won’t hire you either.

People are busier than ever these days and though they can pop right over to Google or YouTube, if they had someone (and by someone I mean you!) offering them a way to help them get results quicker and easier than they’ve been able to alone, they would totally allocate the resources to get started.

This segues right into excuse #2.

Excuse #2

Can I really get them the results I promise?

A lot of coaches fear this one, especially newbies. You worry about speaking to results for fear that you may not actually be able to help clients get any results.

The question to ask yourself is “Why am I taking on the responsibility of doing the WORK for my clients?

Yes, why are you?

Noone can really “promise” results.

It’s your job to facilitate transformation. Got it. FACILITATE…

It’s their job to show up and GET the transformation by actually DOING the work.

Now if this is a case where you’re just not confident with yourself as a coach, get the training you need or hire a coach yourself to show you how to do what you do better.

Need help uncovering the transformation you provide? I got you.

Click here to get private 1-on-1 help.

Excuse #3

My audience doesn’t have any money

You’re telling me that as an actual fact?

Really… you know that to be the absolute truth?

And… you’re sure about this?

Granted some will be more apt to hire you than others but we don’t want to assume the primary reason is “money.” There’s a question I’d ask you to consider beyond whether these people can afford you and that is “Is this audience the right fit for who I am?” Well talk about that next time.

Now, if you’ve followed me or listened to me for any length of time you’ll know that I stand behind the knowing that you ALWAYS get what you TRULY expect.

Assuming that someone can’t afford you is the fastest way to ensure you never have “Paying” clients.

Clients can’t beat a path to your door if you’re blocking them subconsciously.

When you’re assuming what someone can and cannot do you’re projecting your own money stuff.

That’s about you, not them.

See, when someone wants a solution to a challenge bad enough, you’ll be amazed at how they come up with the money for what they want.

If you’ve seen the kind of people in your audience being served by other coaches successfully you’d better believe that “they” can afford it.

Now if they don’t see the value in working with you that’s a problem I can help with. It’s a problem I love helping with.

Here’s what you’ll need:

  • To really know the value of what you do for someone and it’s far reaching effects
  • How to confidently have transformational conversations that uses the client’s own inner guidance to help them see that you’re the solution to their problem
  • What to do to end that conversation with a paying client

Let me help you.

Click here to apply for a private 1-on-1 30 minute “Income Breakthrough Strategy Session” at no cost to you and let’s put you on the path to paying clients!

The Matrix, Mistakes & Laurence Fishburne…


I had a powerful session with my coach recently.

My coach specializes in Matrix Reimprinting.

I won’t go into the logistics of what that means here, but basically it helps me clean up my mental trash, clear up my energy, and let go of the old worn out B.S. (Belief Systems) gettin’ in my way.

Very “Matrix-ish.” Total red pill action.

Speaking of the Matrix. Coincidentally, I totally dreamt about Laurence Fishburne last night.

And it wasn’t just some dream it was an intimate dream.

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Of all people I’m in an intimate relationship with Laurence Fishburne. LOL

Not exactly a celebrity I’d imagine myself dreaming about but there he was loving the heck outta me.



What my subconscious is trying to tell me about myself I do not know for certain at this moment. Should I be loving the matrix and seeing how far down the rabbit hole it goes? (No I don’t mean the movie, I mean my life)… hmmm… probably

It wasn’t a bad dream so I’ll take it as a good sign. 

Anyway, I’ve had some feelings as of late that haven’t settled with me and I just couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way.

So my coach dove in and told me to just spout off every negative thought I could think of regarding anything I’ve been thinking about lately.

It was very therapeutic, but what we unearthed was far more important.

What came up was that part of me STILL felt like life was a struggle.

As smart as I am and with all that I know and all that I teach life still feels like a struggle more often than I’d like to admit.

I was asked to find the first memory from my childhood where I felt this way. 

I easily went right to a very vivid memory of me in elementary school standing in Ms. Bryant’s class misspelling a word during a spelling bee.

I was standing there beside my desk crying and hyperventilating because I had misspelled a word as my classmates looked on.

They probably didn’t give a hot shit that I’d misspelled that word. But I cared, because I was a winner.

I was standing there thinking about how embarrassed I was.JeeJee-Saafir-mistakes


I mean it wasn’t “natural” for me to get things wrong. I was a smart child. How could I get this silly word wrong?

Who was I letting down… My teacher, my mom, my dad? Were the other kids thinking I wasn’t smart enough?

We unearthed simply and easily that I felt bad about making mistakes.

That somehow making a mistake as simple as spelling a word wrong meant that I wasn’t good enough or that I was a bad girl.

This has apparently colored how I’ve showed up in my life. I’ve often been afraid of making mistakes and thus held myself back.

I was raised to believe that I had to be smart to get ahead in the world.

Making mistakes seemed painful if I thought I wouldn’t be accepted or seen as good enough.

My coach and I did some deep work on this memory. It wasn’t the only “bad” memory there but it was one of the big one’s.

I was finally able to start healing this memory as I had a beautiful interaction (while tapping to release) with the little me who felt so bad that day.

The little me who felt like a failure that day…

The little me who wasn’t living up to her parents expectations that day (or  at least what she thought were her parents expectations)…

The little me who felt she might be seen as dumb…

It was powerful to start letting that go.

I’ll admit I cried a bit but that release felt like heaven.

We replaced that memory with a new loving bright memory where “little me” was completely ok making mistakes.

She realized  that those mistakes made her smarter and wiser and better.

She realized that everyone makes them and so it was ok if she did too. 

In this new memory she and I decided to go play instead of worrying about having made that mistake.

Apparently big me still adores fun and play just as much as I did when I was little and it was a big part of changing this memory.

We went to the park, played on the merry-go-round, ate ice cream cones, enjoyed nature and talked about cute boys.

Little me was happy about this new found way of seeing mistakes.  

We both knew for the first time that it REALLY IS OK not to “get it right.” 

What did I learn… that there really is no such thing as mistakes.

There really is no such thing as failure.

There is no win or lose, there’s just WIN OR LEARN.

What we deem to be mistakes are simply opportunities to grow.

I heard a quote that said “Mistakes are a gift you give yourself to find out more of who you really are.

I know today unequivocally that this is the truth… It is all for the expansion, transformation and evolution of who I really am.

Hell if I’d never made any mistakes I wouldn’t be doing this coaching thing.

Because I’ve had plenty of opportunity to learn and grow I’ve got some real shit to share.

Every successful person on this planet has made plenty of “mistakes” and still do, read about them and you’ll see it’s true in almost every case.

So… where are you afraid to fail, and is it truth or is it just opportunity in disguise?


Talking consciousness, entrepreneurship, money and fun with Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator Cory Michelle

I haven’t done an interview in a while and oh boy did I realize just how much I miss and totally love it!!Cory-and-JeeJee-Interview

This time my guest was the lovely Cory Michelle of CoryMichelle.us

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Cory is a Juicy Life Activator, Speaker, Author, Facilitator and Visionary woman on a mission! She teaches online programs, as well as live classes about how to access and have more of YOU in your life and business.

Cory is also a Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator and you’ll here all about that in our recorded chat.

She’s been a featured author in several books: Adventures in Manifesting: Conscious Business http://tinyurl.com/qa4klhc; The Energy of Receiving http://tinyurl.com/oys75hs; and ReVeolution: The Return of the Divine Feminine http://tinyurl.com/pxb4h6f

She’s also got a great gift for you. Her Juicy Business Juicy Life Blueprint. Believe me you’re gonna wanna get this one. I have it and I love it. If you’re a coach or entrepreneur you’ll really love the powerful questions you’ll find. Just click here to pop right over to her website and pick it up now. Click here to get it now.

Now onto the juice we talked about in our interview together.

In this 37 minute interview you’ll hear:

-The plain and simple answer to “What is Consciousness?

-Who is Cory Michelle and what is Access Consciousness?

-One of the biggest polluters on the planet. Hint: it’s not any of the ones you’ll hear about on the news

-What the heck is “running bars?

-How you resist money and create limitations to receiving more

-A slew of powerful questions to ask to intuitively create more money, fun and a business

-What to do about beating up on yourself or making yourself wrong around things like “Procrastination”

-Two powerful questions Cory asks everyday

And so much more!

Get access to the interview here! You don’t want to miss it, seriously!





The Crash and Burn Method… or My Very First Sales Conversation as a Coach

Spiritual-Selling-SecretsI remember vividly my very first enrollment conversation as a coach.

I’d created a 30 min session to offer, gave it a great name and made a quick post in a Facebook group I’d belonged to. Immediately someone got back to me to take me up on it.

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I felt confident. Our conversation flowed well. I found out what her challenges were and what she DIDNT want, and then I found out what her ideal life would look like and what she DID want. Granted I had to coax some of it out of her because she really wasn’t sure.

Soon we were closing in on my offer…

I began to panic. Asking her to work with me or even sharing my solution with her was not coming easy.

So what did I do… I coached.

Big mistake.

I coached her to overcome my discomfort of asking for money. I coached her to justify her spending her time with me.
I coached her to try to prove to her I was worthy.

I coached her because I was scared.

What would she think of me? What if she rejects me? Will she think I’m just in it for the money?

She was riding on high when we came to the conclusion of our conversation.

I’d opened up new ideas and solutions for her and now she didn’t need me it seemed.

I felt my emotions crash and burn as I asked her if she’d like to work with me, as she replied “No I think I’m ok for now, I’ve got a lot to think about, thanks for your coaching…”


All kinds of thoughts were running through my mind.

I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t know enough. I didn’t know what I was doing. Who the heck was I anyway?

It hurt. I pitied myself.

The next day, I pulled my face up outta the dirt and decided I would learn how to have transformational conversations that lead to transactional transformation.

It took some inner work and some outer work, but I succeeded.

The inner work (especially) led to me having conversations where my potential clients were already ready to work with me and they knew it before we’d ever gotten on the phone.

I had them at hello.

Would you love to wield this kind of transformational power?

You know the number #1 challenge coaches have around having a selling conversation isn’t that they’ll be rejected, it’s that they’ll be seen as pushy, sales-y or annoying.

I felt that way at one time too.

So I’m here to help you change the game of whats possible for you in your business when you release the limiting beliefs around selling and money that are holding you back and ease through your discomfort of making a valuable offer.

Join me tomorrow, Tuesday, March 31st at 7pm Eastern, as I reveal my Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get Your First or Next Paying Client without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y, or Annoying!

Register here: jeejeesaafir.com/spiritual-selling-secrets/


Spiritual Selling Tips In Your Inbox and Your Chance To Win

Spiritual-Selling-SecretsIn lieu of my upcoming free training “Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y or Annoying!” I wanted to give my loyal subscribers some great tips each day leading up to this special call.

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I thought why not share this juicy info with the peeps who’ve popped onto my website. They might want the goods too!

It is also my intention to make this free training call the best, most valuable version of this talk I’ve done thus far.

It’s always been one of my most well received training’s and well… I want it to be better than ever.

So here’s what I want to do for you.

Click here to answer these questions.

#1. What’s the biggest problem you’re having with selling your services/enrolling new clients?

#2. What’s the #1 question you’d like me to answer for you on this topic?

Fill in the contact box at the bottom of the page when you click here. Enter your name and pop your answers into the message area and hit send.

If I choose your question I will answer it live on the call and you’ll win a free 30 minute “Biz Brainstorming Session” with yours truly, to hash out what’s getting in your way and we’ll get you going with at least one solid tip of action (inner or outer) to take to get your biz growin!

You must be registered and on the call live to win!

Grab your seat now. <<<

Now on to the tip of the day.

Spiritual Selling Tip of The Day:

Never go into a conversation with a potential client with the thought of trying to “close a sale.”

Instead your intention is to help people “open up into what is possible in their life.”

You are not closing the sale, you are giving them a CHOICE.

And the best selling (enrollment) conversations occur when the potential client talks themselves into working with you.

How do you do that, you ask? 

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The #1 Reason Coaches Hate Selling

Spiritual-Selling-SecretsThe #1 reason so many coaches hate selling (or hate the thought of having to sell) isn’t because they are afraid of rejection. 

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To the contrary.

No. The #1 reason so many coaches hate selling is because they don’t want to be seen as pushy or sale-sy.

We’ve been conditioned to put our guard up when salespeople approach us.

We’ve been taught to be wary cause salespeople are always trying to sell us something, right?

We’ve been taught to believe that most salespeople are manipulative, sleazy, dollar chasin’ creeps who don’t really care about us.

It’s true that there are those kinds of people out there in every industry on the planet.

I’ve worked with them.

Because of my spiritual nature I knew that inside them was a loving person but what fell out of their mouths often made my spirit cringe.

One previous coworker said to me one day, thinking it was a great teaching moment as he had just finished up with a potential customer, “In my mind I’m thinking, if you ain’t spending money with me get the f@ck up out my chair.  NEXT...

I was shocked that he said that to me. Didn’t he know I wasn’t like that. Guess not…

He actually thought that he could train me to be that way.

As I almost threw up in my mouth, holding back my thoughts from showing up in my facial expression as the first thought flittered in my mind “You dirty, sleazy muthaf@cka!”

I just nodded as if I understood what he meant.

As I walked back to my desk I was utterly grateful to know that I didn’t have to be like him or worry that there were others like him.

I knew that if there is one like me who knows that a selling conversation is truly a transformational conversation then there are and will be more like me.

That is why I’m so passionate about this topic.

I’ve had my share of clients in other industries I’ve worked in say to me that so-and-so is so sleazy and they only care about making a dollar off me.

But I so was blessed when they said “but I know you’re not like them, you’re one of the few.”

Ever heard the saying that “all men are dogs?” Is it really true. REALLY?

Of course it’s not. But if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them in your life. PROMISE.

So is it really true that “all salespeople are sleazy, manipulate and conniving?”

Of course not, but if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them. PROMISE.

So this is for those of you who are afraid that this stigma is how you’ll be seen.

Coaches (especially my spiritual bad-asses) like to kick selling under the rug because they don’t want to be seen like this.

But let’s get real for a second.

You’re not just a coach… you’re a business owner and business owners make PROFIT right?

If you can’t sustain yourself you can’t help many people can you?

Nobody gets the transformation they’re seeking. Not you and not them.

That’s why I want to share something special with you.

I want you to give yourself the gift of freedom from the fear of selling yourSELF.

Cause let’s face it, that’s what you’re doing. You’re not selling coaching.

You’re selling yourSELF. You’re the solution to somebody’s problem. To somebody’s prayer. Don’t hold that lightly.

You’re the light in the dark. 

This isn’t about selling your soul for profit.

This is about “giving” (with a generous heart) the world the gifts that come from within you. Gifts of your Spirit. Gifts of your Soul.

And to be paid beautifully and WITHOUT guilt for those gifts.

Let’s start a movement. You and me.

We’re here to change lives.

Let’s show the world selling is NOT something you do TO a person, it’s something that you do FOR a person.

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Why you should just DO YOU. 5 Ways to Be Yourself in Business


[Repost from 1/29/14]

I love working with coaches. They have such a passion for what they do and really care about making a difference, but alas they struggle with BEing themselves. “Just Do You” is usually easier said than done.

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I struggled with this for many years in my business endeavors, with the exception of when I was an adult party planner selling sex toys and offering up some good sexucation. I was me on high. I often wanted to be one of the people in my audiences so that I could enjoy the hilariousness of me. I was fun, I was knowledgeable and I was ME.

People who were too embarrassed to talk about sex all of a sudden came out of their shell, people who were quiet and shy became lively and interactive, and no one felt they had a dumb sex question, they asked away feeling free from judgment by me. This is what being yourself allows others to do. 

When I got into helping entrepreneurs build their businesses, specifically spiritually-minded entrepreneurs I actually hid what I was doing from friends and family. I hid my spiritual side because I was afraid of being judged about being “woo-woo or weird.” I censored my posts when I would write for my blog. I didn’t sprinkle any curse words into my writing for amusement. I kept taking down Facebook page after Facebook page because I didn’t want to leave a trail for family and friends who had asked to “friend me” so they wouldn’t find out I was leading a double life so to speak.

I know you get me. We’re scared to be real in our lives and businesses because it makes us vulnerable. We think we won’t be taken seriously if we’re ourselves. We think we won’t be accepted, or we’ll be judged. We want to be liked and loved and too often we just say “F*ck it” and retreat back into what feels normal. But as we feel emptier and emptier the more we look outside of ourselves for love and approval we hit that painful place where hiding who we are just doesn’t feel good anymore. And to that I say “F*ck that!”

Not being yourself not only hurts you but it hurts your business.  It’s scary admittedly, but I promise you it’s worth it.

Just this past week I was immersed in a seminar with a small group of intellectual/spiritual people. I know when many think “spiritual,” all these cliche thoughts of what spiritual people are like come to mind, but these people were anything but stereotypical. They were frickin’ hilarious. They were real. Even with our differences we had so much in common. We had some of the most enlightening conversations, some of the weirdest and some of the raunchiest. We were silly, playful and deep all within the breath of a weeks time.

There was even an Asian guy there who had purchased his children some Chinese bedtime stories and had received them while he was away, who asked a few of his new lady friends (me included) if we’d like him to read us a Chinese bedtime story down in the lobby before we went to bed. We were all over it. It was different but such a sweet gesture and we all ate it up. Thank goodness that book had pictures though! And kudos to him because this was a guy being himself and we loved it. I’ll never forget that moment.

I think our spiritual sides just make us more of who we really are and for me that’s: fun, funny, creative, confident, sensual, frisky, playful, smart, intuitive, prosperous, etc…

Everyone won’t love you or like you but that’s perfectly fine, because the right ones will show up that love you and want to work with you. And the best way to start attracting more IDEAL clients that love you is for you to just BE YOU! Let your personality come through in your marketing, whether you’re speaking, emailing or writing, be yourself.

Here are 5 quick tips to help you just DO YOU:

#1 Who are you?

Are you an extrovert or introvert? Are you funny, quirky and lighthearted? or Perhaps more serious and deep? Whatever you are, own it. Stop trying to be or do what everyone else is doing, DO YOU. Granted you can learn from what other successful people in your industry are doing but then you’ve got to add YOUR own style to it. When I learn new dance moves, I take the basics I’m taught and once I’m comfortable with the moves I put my own JeeJee flavor on it and anyone who watches me dance knows exactly what JeeJee flavor looks like. It’s unmistakable.

#2 Stop trying to market like everyone else.

The best biz “Guru” on the planet could show you his system and how it’s worked for these “x” people but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you. You need to ask yourself these important questions before you go around replicating what others are doing or buying that next program or hiring that coach.

  • Does this person feel good to me. Do they seem similar in personality, talents and traits?
  • Like me, do they seem to value similar things?
  • When I look at the outcomes I want to achieve do I still feel connected and believe in this person past my own cynicism?

#3. Stop “needing” other people to tell you what to do.

I get it, we often get caught up in “Oh, if I could just get somebody to tell me what to do, then I’d be successful.” Sure we all need someone to guide us from time to time especially in matters of business, but the truth is no one could ever know what is truly best for you than you. Get support, but at the end of the day always make sure to check in with your #1 mentor, your inner guidance. And if you do get a mentor make sure they’re a person who would remind you to check in with your inner guidance. 

#4 Stop having the “This is the thing that’s going to change my life” mindset.

Often people get so excited about the new program they’re taking or new product they’re buying or the new coach they’re hiring thinking “this is going to be it, this is going to be the thing that changes my life and business and makes me buttloads of money.” Often you end up disappointed when you don’t get the exact results you were looking for. See, there is no “This is it, magic pill.” Sure, you can have some success, but we’re ever-changing beings and there is really nothing that is going to change your whole life forever more. There will be always be another thing, another person, another venture and another idea.

In truth YOU are the thing that continually changes your life and you do it moment by moment. All the other people and stuff you think are changing your life are just actors, props and materials you created to make this game of life more fun, challenging or easy, and more real for you.

The 4x-time Grammy Award winning songstress India Arie says “If you create the game, then you create the rules. And if you’ll just be you, there’s no way you can lose.” Truer words were never spoken. You are creating the game that is your life and all the rules though sometimes you pretend you are not.

#5 Stop giving a Shiznit about what others will think.

Sitting around trying to please everybody or trying to say the right things all the time will keep you stuck in your life and business. Learn it now… Happiness is a damn INSIDE JOB! (Written in big letters to also remind myself!) When you understand this you’ll realize that happiness is your own responsibility.

You can let go of needing to be liked, loved, or right. You can also let go of needing to prove yourself and live up to everyone’s expectations. Granted, being liked, praised and appreciated is nice but if you always look for it outside of yourself you will end up sadly disappointed. No one can stand on their heads in enough ways to please you all the time and neither can you. Love and acceptance is not OUT THERE, it is WITHIN. And when you love, like, accept and approve of yourself just the way you are, it won’t matter what anyone else thinks because the right people will show up in your life and the others will go the other way.

Your Call to Action! Tell me, what’s holding you back from being yourself, what are you afraid of? Take some time today to consider what’s awesome about you and why it’s great to be you. Then consider one action step you can take this week to let that shine through in your marketing. How will you DO YOU?

Feelin’ like a fraud? Here’s why you can stop today…


Have you heard people telling you that you can only coach people to do things that you have done?

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For example:

If you’re going to be a relationship coach you have to have a great relationship.

If you’re going to be a business coach you have to have already succeeded in your own business.

If you’re going to help people lose weight you have to be slim and trim.

I know, I know… it makes logical sense, but it’s a lie.

I personally know of an overweight guy who sales personal training at a well-known gym.

Even I was shocked when I saw him.

I thought “wow, this gym hires anybody!”

But it turned out that he was actually selling personal training to people because he was showing them that he was on his own path to losing weight using the program(s) they sold.

He was using the training himself, and selling it! 

Anyone who sees him knows that he isn’t at his ideal weight at this moment (not even close), his body doesn’t look like the photos of the lean fit people plastered all over the wall of the gym, but he is able to show people the value of what good diet and exercise habits can net you because he is “doing” it and losing weight.

I can’t imagine what he’s had to endure with people (probably his own coworkers and members of the gym) looking at him like “how the hell is he going to sell personal training when he’s fat?”

I can’t lie, I totally thought that to myself when I saw him.

But he’s probably going to be one of the most confident people on this planet when it’s all said and done.

And what a life changing testimonial he’s going to have for the people he helps in the future.

And as for the ones who doubted him along the way… well telling them to “kiss his fat ass” probably won’t be appropriate anymore. :-)

He believes in himself. And someone believed in him enough to give him a try. He’s a powerful teacher if you ask me.

You too deserve to feel your greatness and enjoy powerful coaching confidence so that all your clients and potential future clients get value from your coaching.

Own your greatness, and realize that you’re ALREADY ENOUGH to support someone else on their journey.

Can you coach someone to achieve success you’ve never had? Of course you can! I have!

While I was behind on my bills, I was coaching people to make money in their businesses, and guess what! They did!

I even coached some of those same people to turn personal relationships in their lives around, to manifest resources, people and ideas that made a huge difference in their lives.

Will it make it easier for you to get clients if you’ve done it yourself? Yes, it’ll probably be a bit easier.

It’s certainly easier to pop wheelie’s when you’ve have some experience riding a bike.

But don’t let your lack of wheelie success in your business stop you from putting yourself out there and marketing yourself.

Of course you’ll continue to hone your craft as you go and get bigger and better along the way, but if you sit on the sidelines watching everybody else pop wheelie’s you’ll wait forever.

And no one transforms while you wait. Not you and not the people you’re meant to help.

Do you think the coaches who have the level of success you want just blinked their eyes one day and were successful? Hell no.

It happened because they continued to move forward.

If you think they never felt the fraud feeling you’re kidding yourself.

They’ve been there too.

And when they reach into new places in their business you can bet they probably still have an inkling of that feeling there too.

They’ve fallen off their bikes trying to pop bigger wheelie’s too.

But they pick themselves up, put their feet back on those pedals and keep pushin’.

Never discount the experience and expertise you’ve gained up to this point.

Right now there are millions of people all over this planet who would hire a coach right on the spot if there was one reaching out to them and marketing to them well.

There are people all over this planet who are having problems that they can’t solve on their own (or can’t solve fast enough).

Right now there are people all over this planet who have big dreams and goals who just aren’t able to get there on their own (or can’t get their fast enough).

These are the people who need you to be a great coach and a great marketer.

Stop trying to measure up and realize you are ENOUGH now.

Just think of the clients you’ll have in the future who’ll be telling someone else… “I’m so glad (insert your name) did her thing in her business because she made such a huge frickin’ difference in my life.

Put your feet on those pedals and push. People are waiting to be coached by YOU!

And if you need help getting the momentum going to really pop that bad-ass wheelie in your business I’m here.

In fact if you act quickly you can get one of the few spaces I hold each month for a 20 minute complimentary “Get More Clients” Breakthrough Session.

Simply click here to send an email to info@jeejeesaafir.com with the answers to these questions:

Tell me about your business? What do you do, who are your ideal clients?

Where are you at in your business now and where do you want to be over the next 3, 6 and 12 months?

When it comes to offering your services, what are your pain-in-the-booty problems?

Tell me why now? What’s got you seeking support and why are you choosing lil’ ol’ me?

Send that email NOW to info@jeejeesaafir.com!! Wheelie poppin’ awaits!