Hey, hey it’s my birthday! I’m 39 years young today!
Somehow I feel like my 40th is going to be more bad-ass
but I can’t poo on another moment of life!
Who knows what could happen in this day!
You can bet there will be some dancin’ though…
There’s so many options for fun, frivolity and EASE,
if I choose…
That sounds like some shit a Life Coach would say…
(if I choose)… hmmm…
This brings me to the hilarious video I’m not sure
how I found.
It had me crackin’ up, especially around the 3:16 mark
(check it out).
I’m mostly laughing because I’ve totally said this shit
(and to all of you either through my posts or coaching
But as I watched them say it and poke fun at “coaching
language” it just seems sooooo hilarious.
Even though saying those things creates breakthroughs,
AHA moments, clarity and gets results, I can’t help but
to feel how cliche it is all at the same time.
But hey, if you can’t laugh at yourself or what you do
from time to time, then you’re in the wrong business
I know I’m in the right business and on purpose!
I LOVE IT!
I look forward to how my “coach-ese” will evolve.
Next time this video will be about Shit Coach JeeJee says!
Ok… don’t wait on that…
Well here’s the video. Enjoy!
These chicks are hilarious!
Shout out to Andrea Owen over at http://yourkickasslife.com and Amy E. Smith over at http://thejoyjunkie.com
I was listening to an interview with well known spiritual leader Osho.
This guy is pretty funny, has the most fantastic quotes and is really an inspiration to many.
To this he responded:
“Because anything that is just given away is really not taken by anyone.
The higher the cost the better people will keep it and save it in their treasuries.
Give it free and it has no value because people don’t understand value unless it has a price.
They understand price, they don’t understand value.”
Not satisfied with this answer the interviewer continued: “Why does bliss have to be sold?“
Again he responded:
“The higher the price you pay for something, bigger is your estimate about it.
If bliss, ecstacy, etc, were like water and were free, no one would be able to see their value.
You don’t know the real value of water unless you have been thirsty in a desert.”
I concur with this message.
Often in the coaching world there’s a disconnect around “selling” your gifts… selling your unique brand of transformation… selling the bliss your potential clients so desperately want.
But I have to be real with you.
Coaching (one of the best methods for transformation on this planet) has to be sold.
It’s a fact you’ll need to embrace if coaching is going to create real livelihood for you.
Maybe you don’t like the word “selling.”
It often puts you in the mindframe of cold calling, arm twisting, and trying to talk to people who don’t want to be sold.
You get images in your head of you stumbling all over your words in conversations with potential clients, you worry over saying the right things, you fear they’ll judge you for the prices you want to charge, and the list goes on.
Selling my dear is the lifeblood of your business and there’s no two ways about it.
It’s time to embrace this subject that gets such a bad rap.
And it’s ok. I get it. Selling isn’t something we’re born knowing how to do.
And doing it can make you feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. I get it.
We are in physical bodies. So the humanness of us experiences discomfort. It is what it is.
But we can change this.
I’m on a mission to help as many transformational coaches as I can embrace a new way of “being” with selling.
You’re a coach because you want to change lives and for you to be held back by the discomfort of the “s” word is truly a disservice to those you’re meant to help.
You must embrace this: Selling is not something you do TO a person, it’s something you do FOR a person. Get it, Got it, Good.
I want to give you a gift to help you begin to transform this for yourself and your business right now.
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And remember, the more money you make is an indicator that you’re helping more people change their lives for the BETTER!
I believe in the power of coaching, do you?
Then let’s change the world one transformational transaction (sale) at a time.
You may sell with my blessing,
#1 People can do this on their own…
#2 Can I really get them the results I promise?
#3 My audience doesn’t have any money…
If you missed Excuses 1-3 you can read the whole article by clicking here.
Excuse #4 I don’t know enough, I’m not good enough (All the “not enough” excuses!)
If you’ve been in the planning stages FOREVER, you might want to look at your unconscious motives.
If you’ve been stuck in the planning phase of your business for a while now, I think you know that at some point you’re going to have to take action to get things moving.
There’s only so much reading, researching, studying and planning you can do.
Don’t be afraid when I talk about action.
Most of it will be inner action, but you know there’s some practical outer actions you have to take too.
Inspired action is what you’re reaching for.
You just can’t keep “being busy.”
Busy does not necessarily equal clients.
At some point you’ve just gotta get behind the wheel and learn to drive by… driving!
There’s something more important than thinking you need to learn one more thing and that’s… IMPLEMENTATION.
Granted you’ll still want to learn new things along the way, but you can’t keep waiting before you start.
So if you find yourself taking another class or reading another book or searching for the golden ring online, I would suggest that you look at your motives.
What are you afraid of?
Here’s a snippet of some deep questions from an exercise I UBER love by Hans Phillips.
I would suggest you ask yourself.
These aren’t pretty questions but it will make you more aware of what survival mechanisms you’re using that are holding you back.
Here they are…
And here’s where you give those vulnerable answers:
These are all the ways you cover up your fears. These are your survival mechanisms. It’s time to have the courage to embrace your fears.
It’s time to thrive not just survive.
The topic of “Fear” has become one of my favorite subjects and I’ve come with arms outstretched to help you through.
Excuse #5 With so many coaches out there why would anyone hire me?
I get it. It seems like everywhere you look everybody and their momma is a coach, especially if you scour the internet.
You’ll see that coaching peeps abound.
It’s true, coaching is a booming industry, but the question is why?
Do you think it’s simply for the money?
Well money is one important piece.
But where you find coaches you’ll often find people who are seeking freedom.
Who want to live life on their own terms.
You’ll truly find people who want to make a difference in the world.
You’ll find people with wonderful gifts who feel they’ve just got to share.
You’ll find a deep desire to help people transform their lives.
Granted you’ll find some jackholes in any industry but those people are few and far between and you need not concern yourself with them.
Do you know how many lawyers, doctors, teachers, and other professions exist on this planet.
I don’t hear anyone worrying that any of those industries are saturated?
Why? Because for some “odd” reason people feel we need them…
Well it looks like the world is saying yes to coaches too. We need you!
Statistically those other professions still exceed the number of coaches there currently are anyway.
So you need not worry, the coaching profession isn’t going anywhere.
When you’re a new coach however, I can understand your concern about this.
You look around and see all the top coaches partnering with each other, sharing each others work with the masses and you think “Why in the hell would anyone listen to me or open my emails when they’ve got all these superstars in their inbox everyday?”
It can feel like they’ve got the coaching game sewed up, but I promise you they don’t.
You don’t have to wait til’ the superstars die off or wait til’ you think you’ve got all your shit together to help people.
If you need to get past that, I’ve written a great article to help you called “5 Ways You Help Clients Even When You Think “I’m Not Perfect Yet”.
Show me someone who’s got all their shit together every moment of every day and I’ll show you a person who’s not really livin!’
But besides all this we have to take into consideration how the world is changing.
People are more open and aware than ever and we have to give some credit to the coaching industry for ushering in this new age of self-awareness and consciousness.
People want to feel on purpose in their lives.
They are more aware than ever that they’ve been getting in their own way, and if they could just find someone to help them get past these fears and back into aligned action, oh how their life would change.
You my dear are unique. You’re not exactly like anyone else and you never need to pretend you are.
Not to make yourself more marketable, more likeable, more loveable, more worthy, more nothing.
It’s just a matter of you accepting and sharing your own personal story with your audience/tribe/peeps.
And besides if you have the desire within you to coach and facilitate transformation then the Universe has the path to bring to you everything you need to do that… and that means clients just for YOU!!!
Clients who are a match for you.
Which brings me to good ol’ Excuse #6… “Is this audience the right audience for who I am?”
Just because there are an abundance of people who may need your help, that doesn’t mean they’re all YOUR ideal clients.
They most certainly ALL are NOT!
Imagine for a moment that your coaching practice was full of clients, but they were all the “wrong” clients.
And by wrong I mean, they were demanding, expected you to do all the work, super needy, no sense of humor, didn’t respect your time, didn’t do the work, etc.
You know the ones.
What if you’re coaching biz was full of headache, pain in the ass clients?
They’d drain your energy.
You’d end up resenting them.
You’d end up resenting your work.
You’d end up resenting yourself.
It would suck the life and passion out of you quickly.
You’re job… To get as clear as you can from where you currently are as to who you’d LOVE to work with.
You DO get to choose, you know.
You want people who are a match to who you are.
You want people who fuel your passion for what you do.
You want those who inspire you to do your best work.
You want those help you transform through helping them.
You want those who crack you the hell up.
There are things to put in place so that you know before-hand whether someone might be a fit for you or not.
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I had a powerful session with my coach recently.
My coach specializes in Matrix Reimprinting.
I won’t go into the logistics of what that means here, but basically it helps me clean up my mental trash, clear up my energy, and let go of the old worn out B.S. (Belief Systems) gettin’ in my way.
Very “Matrix-ish.” Total red pill action.
Speaking of the Matrix. Coincidentally, I totally dreamt about Laurence Fishburne last night.
Of all people I’m in an intimate relationship with Laurence Fishburne. LOL
Not exactly a celebrity I’d imagine myself dreaming about but there he was loving the heck outta me.
What my subconscious is trying to tell me about myself I do not know for certain at this moment. Should I be loving the matrix and seeing how far down the rabbit hole it goes? (No I don’t mean the movie, I mean my life)… hmmm… probably
It wasn’t a bad dream so I’ll take it as a good sign.
Anyway, I’ve had some feelings as of late that haven’t settled with me and I just couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way.
So my coach dove in and told me to just spout off every negative thought I could think of regarding anything I’ve been thinking about lately.
It was very therapeutic, but what we unearthed was far more important.
What came up was that part of me STILL felt like life was a struggle.
As smart as I am and with all that I know and all that I teach life still feels like a struggle more often than I’d like to admit.
I was asked to find the first memory from my childhood where I felt this way.
I easily went right to a very vivid memory of me in elementary school standing in Ms. Bryant’s class misspelling a word during a spelling bee.
I was standing there beside my desk crying and hyperventilating because I had misspelled a word as my classmates looked on.
They probably didn’t give a hot shit that I’d misspelled that word. But I cared, because I was a winner.
I mean it wasn’t “natural” for me to get things wrong. I was a smart child. How could I get this silly word wrong?
Who was I letting down… My teacher, my mom, my dad? Were the other kids thinking I wasn’t smart enough?
We unearthed simply and easily that I felt bad about making mistakes.
That somehow making a mistake as simple as spelling a word wrong meant that I wasn’t good enough or that I was a bad girl.
This has apparently colored how I’ve showed up in my life. I’ve often been afraid of making mistakes and thus held myself back.
I was raised to believe that I had to be smart to get ahead in the world.
Making mistakes seemed painful if I thought I wouldn’t be accepted or seen as good enough.
My coach and I did some deep work on this memory. It wasn’t the only “bad” memory there but it was one of the big one’s.
I was finally able to start healing this memory as I had a beautiful interaction (while tapping to release) with the little me who felt so bad that day.
The little me who felt like a failure that day…
The little me who wasn’t living up to her parents expectations that day (or at least what she thought were her parents expectations)…
The little me who felt she might be seen as dumb…
It was powerful to start letting that go.
I’ll admit I cried a bit but that release felt like heaven.
We replaced that memory with a new loving bright memory where “little me” was completely ok making mistakes.
She realized that those mistakes made her smarter and wiser and better.
She realized that everyone makes them and so it was ok if she did too.
In this new memory she and I decided to go play instead of worrying about having made that mistake.
Apparently big me still adores fun and play just as much as I did when I was little and it was a big part of changing this memory.
We went to the park, played on the merry-go-round, ate ice cream cones, enjoyed nature and talked about cute boys.
Little me was happy about this new found way of seeing mistakes.
We both knew for the first time that it REALLY IS OK not to “get it right.”
What did I learn… that there really is no such thing as mistakes.
There really is no such thing as failure.
There is no win or lose, there’s just WIN OR LEARN.
What we deem to be mistakes are simply opportunities to grow.
I heard a quote that said “Mistakes are a gift you give yourself to find out more of who you really are.”
I know today unequivocally that this is the truth… It is all for the expansion, transformation and evolution of who I really am.
Hell if I’d never made any mistakes I wouldn’t be doing this coaching thing.
Because I’ve had plenty of opportunity to learn and grow I’ve got some real shit to share.
Every successful person on this planet has made plenty of “mistakes” and still do, read about them and you’ll see it’s true in almost every case.
So… where are you afraid to fail, and is it truth or is it just opportunity in disguise?
This time my guest was the lovely Cory Michelle of CoryMichelle.us
Cory is a Juicy Life Activator, Speaker, Author, Facilitator and Visionary woman on a mission! She teaches online programs, as well as live classes about how to access and have more of YOU in your life and business.
Cory is also a Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator and you’ll here all about that in our recorded chat.
She’s been a featured author in several books: Adventures in Manifesting: Conscious Business http://tinyurl.com/qa4klhc; The Energy of Receiving http://tinyurl.com/oys75hs; and ReVeolution: The Return of the Divine Feminine http://tinyurl.com/pxb4h6f
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Now onto the juice we talked about in our interview together.
In this 37 minute interview you’ll hear:
-The plain and simple answer to “What is Consciousness?“
-Who is Cory Michelle and what is Access Consciousness?
-One of the biggest polluters on the planet. Hint: it’s not any of the ones you’ll hear about on the news
-What the heck is “running bars?“
-How you resist money and create limitations to receiving more
-A slew of powerful questions to ask to intuitively create more money, fun and a business
-What to do about beating up on yourself or making yourself wrong around things like “Procrastination”
-Two powerful questions Cory asks everyday
And so much more!
Get access to the interview here! You don’t want to miss it, seriously!
I felt confident. Our conversation flowed well. I found out what her challenges were and what she DIDNT want, and then I found out what her ideal life would look like and what she DID want. Granted I had to coax some of it out of her because she really wasn’t sure.
Soon we were closing in on my offer…
I began to panic. Asking her to work with me or even sharing my solution with her was not coming easy.
So what did I do… I coached.
I coached her to overcome my discomfort of asking for money. I coached her to justify her spending her time with me.
I coached her to try to prove to her I was worthy.
I coached her because I was scared.
What would she think of me? What if she rejects me? Will she think I’m just in it for the money?
She was riding on high when we came to the conclusion of our conversation.
I’d opened up new ideas and solutions for her and now she didn’t need me it seemed.
I felt my emotions crash and burn as I asked her if she’d like to work with me, as she replied “No I think I’m ok for now, I’ve got a lot to think about, thanks for your coaching…”
All kinds of thoughts were running through my mind.
I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t know enough. I didn’t know what I was doing. Who the heck was I anyway?
It hurt. I pitied myself.
The next day, I pulled my face up outta the dirt and decided I would learn how to have transformational conversations that lead to transactional transformation.
It took some inner work and some outer work, but I succeeded.
The inner work (especially) led to me having conversations where my potential clients were already ready to work with me and they knew it before we’d ever gotten on the phone.
I had them at hello.
Would you love to wield this kind of transformational power?
You know the number #1 challenge coaches have around having a selling conversation isn’t that they’ll be rejected, it’s that they’ll be seen as pushy, sales-y or annoying.
I felt that way at one time too.
So I’m here to help you change the game of whats possible for you in your business when you release the limiting beliefs around selling and money that are holding you back and ease through your discomfort of making a valuable offer.
Join me tomorrow, Tuesday, March 31st at 7pm Eastern, as I reveal my Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get Your First or Next Paying Client without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y, or Annoying!
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In lieu of my upcoming free training “Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y or Annoying!” I wanted to give my loyal subscribers some great tips each day leading up to this special call.
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It’s always been one of my most well received training’s and well… I want it to be better than ever.
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Now on to the tip of the day.
Spiritual Selling Tip of The Day:
Never go into a conversation with a potential client with the thought of trying to “close a sale.”
Instead your intention is to help people “open up into what is possible in their life.”
You are not closing the sale, you are giving them a CHOICE.
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To the contrary.
No. The #1 reason so many coaches hate selling is because they don’t want to be seen as pushy or sale-sy.
We’ve been conditioned to put our guard up when salespeople approach us.
We’ve been taught to be wary cause salespeople are always trying to sell us something, right?
We’ve been taught to believe that most salespeople are manipulative, sleazy, dollar chasin’ creeps who don’t really care about us.
It’s true that there are those kinds of people out there in every industry on the planet.
I’ve worked with them.
Because of my spiritual nature I knew that inside them was a loving person but what fell out of their mouths often made my spirit cringe.
One previous coworker said to me one day, thinking it was a great teaching moment as he had just finished up with a potential customer, “In my mind I’m thinking, if you ain’t spending money with me get the f@ck up out my chair. NEXT...“
I was shocked that he said that to me. Didn’t he know I wasn’t like that. Guess not…
He actually thought that he could train me to be that way.
As I almost threw up in my mouth, holding back my thoughts from showing up in my facial expression as the first thought flittered in my mind “You dirty, sleazy muthaf@cka!”
I just nodded as if I understood what he meant.
As I walked back to my desk I was utterly grateful to know that I didn’t have to be like him or worry that there were others like him.
I knew that if there is one like me who knows that a selling conversation is truly a transformational conversation then there are and will be more like me.
That is why I’m so passionate about this topic.
I’ve had my share of clients in other industries I’ve worked in say to me that so-and-so is so sleazy and they only care about making a dollar off me.
But I so was blessed when they said “but I know you’re not like them, you’re one of the few.”
Ever heard the saying that “all men are dogs?” Is it really true. REALLY?
Of course it’s not. But if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them in your life. PROMISE.
So is it really true that “all salespeople are sleazy, manipulate and conniving?”
Of course not, but if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them. PROMISE.
So this is for those of you who are afraid that this stigma is how you’ll be seen.
Coaches (especially my spiritual bad-asses) like to kick selling under the rug because they don’t want to be seen like this.
But let’s get real for a second.
You’re not just a coach… you’re a business owner and business owners make PROFIT right?
If you can’t sustain yourself you can’t help many people can you?
Nobody gets the transformation they’re seeking. Not you and not them.
That’s why I want to share something special with you.
I want you to give yourself the gift of freedom from the fear of selling yourSELF.
Cause let’s face it, that’s what you’re doing. You’re not selling coaching.
You’re selling yourSELF. You’re the solution to somebody’s problem. To somebody’s prayer. Don’t hold that lightly.
You’re the light in the dark.
This isn’t about selling your soul for profit.
This is about “giving” (with a generous heart) the world the gifts that come from within you. Gifts of your Spirit. Gifts of your Soul.
And to be paid beautifully and WITHOUT guilt for those gifts.
Let’s start a movement. You and me.
We’re here to change lives.
Let’s show the world selling is NOT something you do TO a person, it’s something that you do FOR a person.
Join me on Tuesday March 31st @7pm EST for my FREE training. Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Salesy or Annoying! Get all the details by clicking here. <<<<