#1 People can do this on their own…
#2 Can I really get them the results I promise?
#3 My audience doesn’t have any money…
If you missed Excuses 1-3 you can read the whole article by clicking here.
Excuse #4 I don’t know enough, I’m not good enough (All the “not enough” excuses!)
If you’ve been in the planning stages FOREVER, you might want to look at your unconscious motives.
If you’ve been stuck in the planning phase of your business for a while now, I think you know that at some point you’re going to have to take action to get things moving.
There’s only so much reading, researching, studying and planning you can do.
Don’t be afraid when I talk about action.
Most of it will be inner action, but you know there’s some practical outer actions you have to take too.
Inspired action is what you’re reaching for.
You just can’t keep “being busy.”
Busy does not necessarily equal clients.
At some point you’ve just gotta get behind the wheel and learn to drive by… driving!
There’s something more important than thinking you need to learn one more thing and that’s… IMPLEMENTATION.
Granted you’ll still want to learn new things along the way, but you can’t keep waiting before you start.
So if you find yourself taking another class or reading another book or searching for the golden ring online, I would suggest that you look at your motives.
What are you afraid of?
Here’s a snippet of some deep questions from an exercise I UBER love by Hans Phillips.
I would suggest you ask yourself.
These aren’t pretty questions but it will make you more aware of what survival mechanisms you’re using that are holding you back.
Here they are…
And here’s where you give those vulnerable answers:
These are all the ways you cover up your fears. These are your survival mechanisms. It’s time to have the courage to embrace your fears.
It’s time to thrive not just survive.
The topic of “Fear” has become one of my favorite subjects and I’ve come with arms outstretched to help you through.
Excuse #5 With so many coaches out there why would anyone hire me?
I get it. It seems like everywhere you look everybody and their momma is a coach, especially if you scour the internet.
You’ll see that coaching peeps abound.
It’s true, coaching is a booming industry, but the question is why?
Do you think it’s simply for the money?
Well money is one important piece.
But where you find coaches you’ll often find people who are seeking freedom.
Who want to live life on their own terms.
You’ll truly find people who want to make a difference in the world.
You’ll find people with wonderful gifts who feel they’ve just got to share.
You’ll find a deep desire to help people transform their lives.
Granted you’ll find some jackholes in any industry but those people are few and far between and you need not concern yourself with them.
Do you know how many lawyers, doctors, teachers, and other professions exist on this planet.
I don’t hear anyone worrying that any of those industries are saturated?
Why? Because for some “odd” reason people feel we need them…
Well it looks like the world is saying yes to coaches too. We need you!
Statistically those other professions still exceed the number of coaches there currently are anyway.
So you need not worry, the coaching profession isn’t going anywhere.
When you’re a new coach however, I can understand your concern about this.
You look around and see all the top coaches partnering with each other, sharing each others work with the masses and you think “Why in the hell would anyone listen to me or open my emails when they’ve got all these superstars in their inbox everyday?”
It can feel like they’ve got the coaching game sewed up, but I promise you they don’t.
You don’t have to wait til’ the superstars die off or wait til’ you think you’ve got all your shit together to help people.
If you need to get past that, I’ve written a great article to help you called “5 Ways You Help Clients Even When You Think “I’m Not Perfect Yet”.
Show me someone who’s got all their shit together every moment of every day and I’ll show you a person who’s not really livin!’
But besides all this we have to take into consideration how the world is changing.
People are more open and aware than ever and we have to give some credit to the coaching industry for ushering in this new age of self-awareness and consciousness.
People want to feel on purpose in their lives.
They are more aware than ever that they’ve been getting in their own way, and if they could just find someone to help them get past these fears and back into aligned action, oh how their life would change.
You my dear are unique. You’re not exactly like anyone else and you never need to pretend you are.
Not to make yourself more marketable, more likeable, more loveable, more worthy, more nothing.
It’s just a matter of you accepting and sharing your own personal story with your audience/tribe/peeps.
And besides if you have the desire within you to coach and facilitate transformation then the Universe has the path to bring to you everything you need to do that… and that means clients just for YOU!!!
Clients who are a match for you.
Which brings me to good ol’ Excuse #6… “Is this audience the right audience for who I am?”
Just because there are an abundance of people who may need your help, that doesn’t mean they’re all YOUR ideal clients.
They most certainly ALL are NOT!
Imagine for a moment that your coaching practice was full of clients, but they were all the “wrong” clients.
And by wrong I mean, they were demanding, expected you to do all the work, super needy, no sense of humor, didn’t respect your time, didn’t do the work, etc.
You know the ones.
What if you’re coaching biz was full of headache, pain in the ass clients?
They’d drain your energy.
You’d end up resenting them.
You’d end up resenting your work.
You’d end up resenting yourself.
It would suck the life and passion out of you quickly.
You’re job… To get as clear as you can from where you currently are as to who you’d LOVE to work with.
You DO get to choose, you know.
You want people who are a match to who you are.
You want people who fuel your passion for what you do.
You want those who inspire you to do your best work.
You want those help you transform through helping them.
You want those who crack you the hell up.
There are things to put in place so that you know before-hand whether someone might be a fit for you or not.
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I had a powerful session with my coach recently.
My coach specializes in Matrix Reimprinting.
I won’t go into the logistics of what that means here, but basically it helps me clean up my mental trash, clear up my energy, and let go of the old worn out B.S. (Belief Systems) gettin’ in my way.
Very “Matrix-ish.” Total red pill action.
Speaking of the Matrix. Coincidentally, I totally dreamt about Laurence Fishburne last night.
Of all people I’m in an intimate relationship with Laurence Fishburne. LOL
Not exactly a celebrity I’d imagine myself dreaming about but there he was loving the heck outta me.
What my subconscious is trying to tell me about myself I do not know for certain at this moment. Should I be loving the matrix and seeing how far down the rabbit hole it goes? (No I don’t mean the movie, I mean my life)… hmmm… probably
It wasn’t a bad dream so I’ll take it as a good sign.
Anyway, I’ve had some feelings as of late that haven’t settled with me and I just couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way.
So my coach dove in and told me to just spout off every negative thought I could think of regarding anything I’ve been thinking about lately.
It was very therapeutic, but what we unearthed was far more important.
What came up was that part of me STILL felt like life was a struggle.
As smart as I am and with all that I know and all that I teach life still feels like a struggle more often than I’d like to admit.
I was asked to find the first memory from my childhood where I felt this way.
I easily went right to a very vivid memory of me in elementary school standing in Ms. Bryant’s class misspelling a word during a spelling bee.
I was standing there beside my desk crying and hyperventilating because I had misspelled a word as my classmates looked on.
They probably didn’t give a hot shit that I’d misspelled that word. But I cared, because I was a winner.
I mean it wasn’t “natural” for me to get things wrong. I was a smart child. How could I get this silly word wrong?
Who was I letting down… My teacher, my mom, my dad? Were the other kids thinking I wasn’t smart enough?
We unearthed simply and easily that I felt bad about making mistakes.
That somehow making a mistake as simple as spelling a word wrong meant that I wasn’t good enough or that I was a bad girl.
This has apparently colored how I’ve showed up in my life. I’ve often been afraid of making mistakes and thus held myself back.
I was raised to believe that I had to be smart to get ahead in the world.
Making mistakes seemed painful if I thought I wouldn’t be accepted or seen as good enough.
My coach and I did some deep work on this memory. It wasn’t the only “bad” memory there but it was one of the big one’s.
I was finally able to start healing this memory as I had a beautiful interaction (while tapping to release) with the little me who felt so bad that day.
The little me who felt like a failure that day…
The little me who wasn’t living up to her parents expectations that day (or at least what she thought were her parents expectations)…
The little me who felt she might be seen as dumb…
It was powerful to start letting that go.
I’ll admit I cried a bit but that release felt like heaven.
We replaced that memory with a new loving bright memory where “little me” was completely ok making mistakes.
She realized that those mistakes made her smarter and wiser and better.
She realized that everyone makes them and so it was ok if she did too.
In this new memory she and I decided to go play instead of worrying about having made that mistake.
Apparently big me still adores fun and play just as much as I did when I was little and it was a big part of changing this memory.
We went to the park, played on the merry-go-round, ate ice cream cones, enjoyed nature and talked about cute boys.
Little me was happy about this new found way of seeing mistakes.
We both knew for the first time that it REALLY IS OK not to “get it right.”
What did I learn… that there really is no such thing as mistakes.
There really is no such thing as failure.
There is no win or lose, there’s just WIN OR LEARN.
What we deem to be mistakes are simply opportunities to grow.
I heard a quote that said “Mistakes are a gift you give yourself to find out more of who you really are.”
I know today unequivocally that this is the truth… It is all for the expansion, transformation and evolution of who I really am.
Hell if I’d never made any mistakes I wouldn’t be doing this coaching thing.
Because I’ve had plenty of opportunity to learn and grow I’ve got some real shit to share.
Every successful person on this planet has made plenty of “mistakes” and still do, read about them and you’ll see it’s true in almost every case.
So… where are you afraid to fail, and is it truth or is it just opportunity in disguise?
This time my guest was the lovely Cory Michelle of CoryMichelle.us
Cory is a Juicy Life Activator, Speaker, Author, Facilitator and Visionary woman on a mission! She teaches online programs, as well as live classes about how to access and have more of YOU in your life and business.
Cory is also a Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator and you’ll here all about that in our recorded chat.
She’s been a featured author in several books: Adventures in Manifesting: Conscious Business http://tinyurl.com/qa4klhc; The Energy of Receiving http://tinyurl.com/oys75hs; and ReVeolution: The Return of the Divine Feminine http://tinyurl.com/pxb4h6f
She’s also got a great gift for you. Her Juicy Business Juicy Life Blueprint. Believe me you’re gonna wanna get this one. I have it and I love it. If you’re a coach or entrepreneur you’ll really love the powerful questions you’ll find. Just click here to pop right over to her website and pick it up now. Click here to get it now.
Now onto the juice we talked about in our interview together.
In this 37 minute interview you’ll hear:
-The plain and simple answer to “What is Consciousness?“
-Who is Cory Michelle and what is Access Consciousness?
-One of the biggest polluters on the planet. Hint: it’s not any of the ones you’ll hear about on the news
-What the heck is “running bars?“
-How you resist money and create limitations to receiving more
-A slew of powerful questions to ask to intuitively create more money, fun and a business
-What to do about beating up on yourself or making yourself wrong around things like “Procrastination”
-Two powerful questions Cory asks everyday
And so much more!
Get access to the interview here! You don’t want to miss it, seriously!
I felt confident. Our conversation flowed well. I found out what her challenges were and what she DIDNT want, and then I found out what her ideal life would look like and what she DID want. Granted I had to coax some of it out of her because she really wasn’t sure.
Soon we were closing in on my offer…
I began to panic. Asking her to work with me or even sharing my solution with her was not coming easy.
So what did I do… I coached.
I coached her to overcome my discomfort of asking for money. I coached her to justify her spending her time with me.
I coached her to try to prove to her I was worthy.
I coached her because I was scared.
What would she think of me? What if she rejects me? Will she think I’m just in it for the money?
She was riding on high when we came to the conclusion of our conversation.
I’d opened up new ideas and solutions for her and now she didn’t need me it seemed.
I felt my emotions crash and burn as I asked her if she’d like to work with me, as she replied “No I think I’m ok for now, I’ve got a lot to think about, thanks for your coaching…”
All kinds of thoughts were running through my mind.
I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t know enough. I didn’t know what I was doing. Who the heck was I anyway?
It hurt. I pitied myself.
The next day, I pulled my face up outta the dirt and decided I would learn how to have transformational conversations that lead to transactional transformation.
It took some inner work and some outer work, but I succeeded.
The inner work (especially) led to me having conversations where my potential clients were already ready to work with me and they knew it before we’d ever gotten on the phone.
I had them at hello.
Would you love to wield this kind of transformational power?
You know the number #1 challenge coaches have around having a selling conversation isn’t that they’ll be rejected, it’s that they’ll be seen as pushy, sales-y or annoying.
I felt that way at one time too.
So I’m here to help you change the game of whats possible for you in your business when you release the limiting beliefs around selling and money that are holding you back and ease through your discomfort of making a valuable offer.
Join me tomorrow, Tuesday, March 31st at 7pm Eastern, as I reveal my Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get Your First or Next Paying Client without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y, or Annoying!
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In lieu of my upcoming free training “Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Sales-y or Annoying!” I wanted to give my loyal subscribers some great tips each day leading up to this special call.
I thought why not share this juicy info with the peeps who’ve popped onto my website. They might want the goods too!
It is also my intention to make this free training call the best, most valuable version of this talk I’ve done thus far.
It’s always been one of my most well received training’s and well… I want it to be better than ever.
So here’s what I want to do for you.
#1. What’s the biggest problem you’re having with selling your services/enrolling new clients?
#2. What’s the #1 question you’d like me to answer for you on this topic?
Fill in the contact box at the bottom of the page when you click here. Enter your name and pop your answers into the message area and hit send.
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Now on to the tip of the day.
Spiritual Selling Tip of The Day:
Never go into a conversation with a potential client with the thought of trying to “close a sale.”
Instead your intention is to help people “open up into what is possible in their life.”
You are not closing the sale, you are giving them a CHOICE.
And the best selling (enrollment) conversations occur when the potential client talks themselves into working with you.
How do you do that, you ask?
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To the contrary.
No. The #1 reason so many coaches hate selling is because they don’t want to be seen as pushy or sale-sy.
We’ve been conditioned to put our guard up when salespeople approach us.
We’ve been taught to be wary cause salespeople are always trying to sell us something, right?
We’ve been taught to believe that most salespeople are manipulative, sleazy, dollar chasin’ creeps who don’t really care about us.
It’s true that there are those kinds of people out there in every industry on the planet.
I’ve worked with them.
Because of my spiritual nature I knew that inside them was a loving person but what fell out of their mouths often made my spirit cringe.
One previous coworker said to me one day, thinking it was a great teaching moment as he had just finished up with a potential customer, “In my mind I’m thinking, if you ain’t spending money with me get the f@ck up out my chair. NEXT...“
I was shocked that he said that to me. Didn’t he know I wasn’t like that. Guess not…
He actually thought that he could train me to be that way.
As I almost threw up in my mouth, holding back my thoughts from showing up in my facial expression as the first thought flittered in my mind “You dirty, sleazy muthaf@cka!”
I just nodded as if I understood what he meant.
As I walked back to my desk I was utterly grateful to know that I didn’t have to be like him or worry that there were others like him.
I knew that if there is one like me who knows that a selling conversation is truly a transformational conversation then there are and will be more like me.
That is why I’m so passionate about this topic.
I’ve had my share of clients in other industries I’ve worked in say to me that so-and-so is so sleazy and they only care about making a dollar off me.
But I so was blessed when they said “but I know you’re not like them, you’re one of the few.”
Ever heard the saying that “all men are dogs?” Is it really true. REALLY?
Of course it’s not. But if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them in your life. PROMISE.
So is it really true that “all salespeople are sleazy, manipulate and conniving?”
Of course not, but if you believe it, you’ll come across plenty of them. PROMISE.
So this is for those of you who are afraid that this stigma is how you’ll be seen.
Coaches (especially my spiritual bad-asses) like to kick selling under the rug because they don’t want to be seen like this.
But let’s get real for a second.
You’re not just a coach… you’re a business owner and business owners make PROFIT right?
If you can’t sustain yourself you can’t help many people can you?
Nobody gets the transformation they’re seeking. Not you and not them.
That’s why I want to share something special with you.
I want you to give yourself the gift of freedom from the fear of selling yourSELF.
Cause let’s face it, that’s what you’re doing. You’re not selling coaching.
You’re selling yourSELF. You’re the solution to somebody’s problem. To somebody’s prayer. Don’t hold that lightly.
You’re the light in the dark.
This isn’t about selling your soul for profit.
This is about “giving” (with a generous heart) the world the gifts that come from within you. Gifts of your Spirit. Gifts of your Soul.
And to be paid beautifully and WITHOUT guilt for those gifts.
Let’s start a movement. You and me.
We’re here to change lives.
Let’s show the world selling is NOT something you do TO a person, it’s something that you do FOR a person.
Join me on Tuesday March 31st @7pm EST for my FREE training. Spiritual Selling Secrets – How to Get your First or Next Paying Clients without Feeling Pushy, Salesy or Annoying! Get all the details by clicking here. <<<<
[Repost from 1/29/14]
I love working with coaches. They have such a passion for what they do and really care about making a difference, but alas they struggle with BEing themselves. “Just Do You” is usually easier said than done.
I struggled with this for many years in my business endeavors, with the exception of when I was an adult party planner selling sex toys and offering up some good sexucation. I was me on high. I often wanted to be one of the people in my audiences so that I could enjoy the hilariousness of me. I was fun, I was knowledgeable and I was ME.
People who were too embarrassed to talk about sex all of a sudden came out of their shell, people who were quiet and shy became lively and interactive, and no one felt they had a dumb sex question, they asked away feeling free from judgment by me. This is what being yourself allows others to do.
When I got into helping entrepreneurs build their businesses, specifically spiritually-minded entrepreneurs I actually hid what I was doing from friends and family. I hid my spiritual side because I was afraid of being judged about being “woo-woo or weird.” I censored my posts when I would write for my blog. I didn’t sprinkle any curse words into my writing for amusement. I kept taking down Facebook page after Facebook page because I didn’t want to leave a trail for family and friends who had asked to “friend me” so they wouldn’t find out I was leading a double life so to speak.
I know you get me. We’re scared to be real in our lives and businesses because it makes us vulnerable. We think we won’t be taken seriously if we’re ourselves. We think we won’t be accepted, or we’ll be judged. We want to be liked and loved and too often we just say “F*ck it” and retreat back into what feels normal. But as we feel emptier and emptier the more we look outside of ourselves for love and approval we hit that painful place where hiding who we are just doesn’t feel good anymore. And to that I say “F*ck that!”
Not being yourself not only hurts you but it hurts your business. It’s scary admittedly, but I promise you it’s worth it.
Just this past week I was immersed in a seminar with a small group of intellectual/spiritual people. I know when many think “spiritual,” all these cliche thoughts of what spiritual people are like come to mind, but these people were anything but stereotypical. They were frickin’ hilarious. They were real. Even with our differences we had so much in common. We had some of the most enlightening conversations, some of the weirdest and some of the raunchiest. We were silly, playful and deep all within the breath of a weeks time.
There was even an Asian guy there who had purchased his children some Chinese bedtime stories and had received them while he was away, who asked a few of his new lady friends (me included) if we’d like him to read us a Chinese bedtime story down in the lobby before we went to bed. We were all over it. It was different but such a sweet gesture and we all ate it up. Thank goodness that book had pictures though! And kudos to him because this was a guy being himself and we loved it. I’ll never forget that moment.
I think our spiritual sides just make us more of who we really are and for me that’s: fun, funny, creative, confident, sensual, frisky, playful, smart, intuitive, prosperous, etc…
Everyone won’t love you or like you but that’s perfectly fine, because the right ones will show up that love you and want to work with you. And the best way to start attracting more IDEAL clients that love you is for you to just BE YOU! Let your personality come through in your marketing, whether you’re speaking, emailing or writing, be yourself.
Here are 5 quick tips to help you just DO YOU:
#1 Who are you?
Are you an extrovert or introvert? Are you funny, quirky and lighthearted? or Perhaps more serious and deep? Whatever you are, own it. Stop trying to be or do what everyone else is doing, DO YOU. Granted you can learn from what other successful people in your industry are doing but then you’ve got to add YOUR own style to it. When I learn new dance moves, I take the basics I’m taught and once I’m comfortable with the moves I put my own JeeJee flavor on it and anyone who watches me dance knows exactly what JeeJee flavor looks like. It’s unmistakable.
#2 Stop trying to market like everyone else.
The best biz “Guru” on the planet could show you his system and how it’s worked for these “x” people but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you. You need to ask yourself these important questions before you go around replicating what others are doing or buying that next program or hiring that coach.
#3. Stop “needing” other people to tell you what to do.
I get it, we often get caught up in “Oh, if I could just get somebody to tell me what to do, then I’d be successful.” Sure we all need someone to guide us from time to time especially in matters of business, but the truth is no one could ever know what is truly best for you than you. Get support, but at the end of the day always make sure to check in with your #1 mentor, your inner guidance. And if you do get a mentor make sure they’re a person who would remind you to check in with your inner guidance.
#4 Stop having the “This is the thing that’s going to change my life” mindset.
Often people get so excited about the new program they’re taking or new product they’re buying or the new coach they’re hiring thinking “this is going to be it, this is going to be the thing that changes my life and business and makes me buttloads of money.” Often you end up disappointed when you don’t get the exact results you were looking for. See, there is no “This is it, magic pill.” Sure, you can have some success, but we’re ever-changing beings and there is really nothing that is going to change your whole life forever more. There will be always be another thing, another person, another venture and another idea.
In truth YOU are the thing that continually changes your life and you do it moment by moment. All the other people and stuff you think are changing your life are just actors, props and materials you created to make this game of life more fun, challenging or easy, and more real for you.
The 4x-time Grammy Award winning songstress India Arie says “If you create the game, then you create the rules. And if you’ll just be you, there’s no way you can lose.” Truer words were never spoken. You are creating the game that is your life and all the rules though sometimes you pretend you are not.
#5 Stop giving a Shiznit about what others will think.
Sitting around trying to please everybody or trying to say the right things all the time will keep you stuck in your life and business. Learn it now… Happiness is a damn INSIDE JOB! (Written in big letters to also remind myself!) When you understand this you’ll realize that happiness is your own responsibility.
You can let go of needing to be liked, loved, or right. You can also let go of needing to prove yourself and live up to everyone’s expectations. Granted, being liked, praised and appreciated is nice but if you always look for it outside of yourself you will end up sadly disappointed. No one can stand on their heads in enough ways to please you all the time and neither can you. Love and acceptance is not OUT THERE, it is WITHIN. And when you love, like, accept and approve of yourself just the way you are, it won’t matter what anyone else thinks because the right people will show up in your life and the others will go the other way.
Your Call to Action! Tell me, what’s holding you back from being yourself, what are you afraid of? Take some time today to consider what’s awesome about you and why it’s great to be you. Then consider one action step you can take this week to let that shine through in your marketing. How will you DO YOU?
If you’re going to be a relationship coach you have to have a great relationship.
If you’re going to be a business coach you have to have already succeeded in your own business.
If you’re going to help people lose weight you have to be slim and trim.
I know, I know… it makes logical sense, but it’s a lie.
I personally know of an overweight guy who sales personal training at a well-known gym.
Even I was shocked when I saw him.
I thought “wow, this gym hires anybody!”
But it turned out that he was actually selling personal training to people because he was showing them that he was on his own path to losing weight using the program(s) they sold.
He was using the training himself, and selling it!
Anyone who sees him knows that he isn’t at his ideal weight at this moment (not even close), his body doesn’t look like the photos of the lean fit people plastered all over the wall of the gym, but he is able to show people the value of what good diet and exercise habits can net you because he is “doing” it and losing weight.
I can’t imagine what he’s had to endure with people (probably his own coworkers and members of the gym) looking at him like “how the hell is he going to sell personal training when he’s fat?”
I can’t lie, I totally thought that to myself when I saw him.
But he’s probably going to be one of the most confident people on this planet when it’s all said and done.
And what a life changing testimonial he’s going to have for the people he helps in the future.
And as for the ones who doubted him along the way… well telling them to “kiss his fat ass” probably won’t be appropriate anymore.
He believes in himself. And someone believed in him enough to give him a try. He’s a powerful teacher if you ask me.
You too deserve to feel your greatness and enjoy powerful coaching confidence so that all your clients and potential future clients get value from your coaching.
Own your greatness, and realize that you’re ALREADY ENOUGH to support someone else on their journey.
Can you coach someone to achieve success you’ve never had? Of course you can! I have!
While I was behind on my bills, I was coaching people to make money in their businesses, and guess what! They did!
I even coached some of those same people to turn personal relationships in their lives around, to manifest resources, people and ideas that made a huge difference in their lives.
Will it make it easier for you to get clients if you’ve done it yourself? Yes, it’ll probably be a bit easier.
It’s certainly easier to pop wheelie’s when you’ve have some experience riding a bike.
But don’t let your lack of wheelie success in your business stop you from putting yourself out there and marketing yourself.
Of course you’ll continue to hone your craft as you go and get bigger and better along the way, but if you sit on the sidelines watching everybody else pop wheelie’s you’ll wait forever.
And no one transforms while you wait. Not you and not the people you’re meant to help.
Do you think the coaches who have the level of success you want just blinked their eyes one day and were successful? Hell no.
It happened because they continued to move forward.
If you think they never felt the fraud feeling you’re kidding yourself.
They’ve been there too.
And when they reach into new places in their business you can bet they probably still have an inkling of that feeling there too.
They’ve fallen off their bikes trying to pop bigger wheelie’s too.
But they pick themselves up, put their feet back on those pedals and keep pushin’.
Never discount the experience and expertise you’ve gained up to this point.
Right now there are millions of people all over this planet who would hire a coach right on the spot if there was one reaching out to them and marketing to them well.
There are people all over this planet who are having problems that they can’t solve on their own (or can’t solve fast enough).
Right now there are people all over this planet who have big dreams and goals who just aren’t able to get there on their own (or can’t get their fast enough).
These are the people who need you to be a great coach and a great marketer.
Stop trying to measure up and realize you are ENOUGH now.
Just think of the clients you’ll have in the future who’ll be telling someone else… “I’m so glad (insert your name) did her thing in her business because she made such a huge frickin’ difference in my life.
Put your feet on those pedals and push. People are waiting to be coached by YOU!
And if you need help getting the momentum going to really pop that bad-ass wheelie in your business I’m here.
In fact if you act quickly you can get one of the few spaces I hold each month for a 20 minute complimentary “Get More Clients” Breakthrough Session.
Simply click here to send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with the answers to these questions:
Tell me about your business? What do you do, who are your ideal clients?
Where are you at in your business now and where do you want to be over the next 3, 6 and 12 months?
When it comes to offering your services, what are your pain-in-the-booty problems?
Tell me why now? What’s got you seeking support and why are you choosing lil’ ol’ me?
Send that email NOW to email@example.com!! Wheelie poppin’ awaits!
Ever had writers block?
Ever toiled over what the hell to write about? Felt like you’d already said it all or are starting to sound like everybody else?
Ever been torn between wanting to write about a certain topic from your heart and in the next moment worried about whether anyone would give a hot sh%t about it?
Couldn’t decide so you stayed stuck?
I’ll go first. As you may have noticed I haven’t written a damn thing for over a month. No newsletters to my subscribers and no blog posts. Yes I’ve sent emails here and there but nothing substantial.
I’ve been consistently writing for a few years now & then Phbbbbbtttttt… (brain fart!) WTF!
Granted, I’ve had a lot of irons in the fire lately so it’s felt like a bit of a chore to get back on track.
When I thought about writing and I actually sat down to do it (on more than a few occasions as of late) my mind went to “what the hell do I write about?”
All the best (worst) procrastinating excuses have been swimming around in my head, “I’m too tired,” “I’m too busy,” I’m overwhelmed, “I’m not inspired,” “what if no one even reads it,” “what if people unsubscribe from my list” “I need to see what others are writing about first…”
I have been off my game.
As Kim Possible woulda’ said back in the day “What’s the Sitch?”
There’s one main issue here and its name is, drum roll please… FEAR
Let me be even more transparent about why I’ve been overwhelmed and tired and how that FEAR
is was on the forefront of my world…
I’m in the final year of completing my Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology and specializing in transformational coaching to deepen my coaching expertise.
If you don’t know what Transpersonal means, here’s a brief definition. “Transpersonal psychology focuses mainly on mind, expanded states of consciousness and human potential. Research into transpersonal states of consciousness provides new psychological theories on perception, self-identity and ways of knowing.”
If you ask me, it’s simply the practice of learning/remembering how to BE who you really are, in all your fantastic glory, authentically and unapologetically.
I am not at this school just to receive some letters behind my name, though that’s cool and all. I’m here to be immersed in this practice of being ME and this institution helps me to do that. Though there are many other avenues I could’ve taken to do this, I’ve found a community here of people that I utterly adore and would actually call “Soul-Mates.” And that my friends is “priceless.”
I’ve also been through a few shake ups over the last few months… relationship breakdowns, computers dying, flash drives blanking, car accidents, etc. Needless to say some extra money was needed for a bit of time and so I took on a job for a short time.
But now that I’ve come through the breakdown and am finally breaking through again I can’t stay away from YOU or my passion. I’ve got to write and share ME with those who are asking.
So now that I’m done with the back and forth over whether I should give you what you want, or give myself what I want in this post, I’ve killed two birds with one stone, and it feels mighty good.
It’s a keep it real moment and I love it. I know I’m not the only one who struggles from time to time with trying to put out great, authentic content people want to read.
So let’s briefly get back to “the Sitch…” FEAR
Turns out that my chosen spiritual discipline this year as I complete my Masters is that of “Embracing my Fears and letting them go!”
The fear of not knowing what to write all stemmed from those unhelpful thoughts that said “What if they don’t like it,” “What if they laugh at me,” “What if they judge me,” “what if I fail,” “What if I can’t be any more successful in this business as I’ve been,” and hell, “what if I really succeed wildly, then what, I’ll have to be more un-comfortable?” I can embrace it all and let it all go…
Thank you God I chose this school to do my “dirty” work. The dirty work of being my damn self. The self that knows that she is “Good” and doesn’t have to pretend for anyone. The self that knows she is supported, valuable and worthy. The self that does not have to cling to worry about “getting it wrong.” She can “get it wrong” and still move forward! The self that is not afraid to feel all of her real emotions (fear included), and knows that when she allows herself to feel them that then she can transform them and change her life immediately.
FEAR is now my friend. So what does that mean for you?
It means that in this moment I am publicly acknowledging that I will be bolder, bigger, and more ballsy than I’ve ever been before and you will benefit because you’ll be getting the best of me.
You’ll be seeing me, hearing me, and getting the best expertise I can give you to help you embrace your fears, make more money, grow your business and share the best of you with those who are here to learn/play/co-create with you.
I’ll be listening to you and myself more deeply. You’ll be getting the most authentic me I can possibly give you at any moment.
Know that everything I do is meant with the intention of love. With the intention to uplift. With the intention to leave you better and never worse than you were before you met me. With the intention that because you see me DO ME, that you have the absolute and utter freedom to give yourself the green light to DO YOU!!
(Looks like writer’s block ended and writer’s diarrhea took over! But I won’t apologize for the length of this post. Just excuse me while I wipe…)
In touch soon… xoxo
New Horizons Await,