8 Tips on How to be Highly Marketable as a Coach

Highly-Marketable-JeeJee-Saafir-CoachingSorry to tell ya’ but being marketable as a coach does not have much to do with how many degrees or certifications you have.

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To be a real leader and be marketable as a coach it comes down to these 8 important things…

#1 Marketable Content

Create simple content that helps your clients and potential peeps understand how you can help them.

Speak to problems, benefits and results.

Meet your client where their mind is at.

Make sure to give people what they want to buy, not what YOU think they need.

#2 Exercises, templates, checklists and scripts

People love done-for-you goodies because it helps shorten their learning curve.

It’s like giving them recipes to create their own delicious meals.

They know exactly what steps to take.

People like to know that it’s possible to get from point A to B and  that they don’t have to figure it all out on their own.

They’ll love you for helping to make life easier for them.

#3 Empowering Questions

You can’t be a powerful coach without knowing how to ask powerful questions.

As coaches we hold our clients as powerful by understanding that they have the wisdom within them to solve their own problems. We just have to help them unearth it.

Great coaching questions are open-ended, non-judgmental and helps to foster new ideas, visions and possible solutions.

Sure we’ll give them practical tips and how-to’s along the way, but a clients own inner guidance is gold!

It takes the pressure off of you and puts the responsibility right in the clients lap to change their own lives.

Ultimately they’re the only one who can do it anyway.

#4 A belief change process that works

Your clients need inner and outer tools to get them to their goals.

When they get stuck and caught up in the same old fears (or new ones) they need a way to shift that energy so that they can realign with their goals and move forward.

Ultimately your clients need to be able to “self coach” themselves when they get stuck or overwhelmed, and especially when their not taking actions (mental or physical) that are in alignment with their goals.

You need to be able to support them in this process.

#5 Confidence in handling strong emotions without getting caught up in your clients’ stories

You need to be able to manage your own emotional energy on a daily basis so that you stand in your power as a coach when sessions get sticky.

Getting caught up in your client’s old stories is the best way to make sure your clients keep experiencing the things they do not want in their lives.

You don’t help them when you buy into their stories, you just add fuel to the fire.

You have to learn to create a balance between letting it be ok about where they’re at emotionally in that moment, and helping them move the energy so that they don’t stay there too long.

A powerful coach can snap someone out of it in less than 15 minutes!

#6 A simple system for coaching on money (it always comes up so you’ll need to be prepared)

Resistance and fears around money is a common issue.

As clients move forward they’ll come up against their gremlins many times, especially as they move to new levels of success.

You have to be able to coach them through their stories around money, period!

Their attitude about money will hold them back big time.

This is one area where even small mindset breakthroughs can create great results for your clients.

#7 A system for coaching clients on how to make decisions, how to get out of overwhelm, how to prioritize and how to get clear and confident in moving forward

You need to be able to support your clients in creating a plan that is aligned with their goals.

You never want to be all over the place trying to help them stay on task and solve their problems.

Creating an action plan and chunking it down into 30 days at a time actions will help clients feel that their goals are doable and they won’t succumb to overwhelm as easily.

#8 Know your own “BS” and be actively working on identifying and unhooking your triggers

We all have out judgments, attitudes and other quirks we bring with us.

Even if we don’t want to admit it, we’ve got our own shit goin’ on sometimes.

We’re not always on our game. And that’s ok. Own it. Accept it.

But you’ve got to know how to unhook from your own shit.

You’ve got to take notice of the things you’re triggered by when you’re in a session with a client (or before you even get into a session with a client) and you’ve got to take full responsibility for how you feel and or react.

Alignment is king! Knowing how to manage your emotional energy is paramount to your success in your personal and professional life.

I help my clients bust through emotional residue in no time.

There are simple processes to use anytime you need and most don’t take more than two minutes to get ya’ there!

Get these powerful coaching tips under your belt and you’ll be a highly marketable, in demand coach in no time.

Especially heed number 8, it’s the most important of all of them!


If you just can’t get those emotions under control, connect with me here and let’s talk about getting you some support.

3 Money Myths to Stop F*ing Believin’ In Now! (Belief #3)


It’s often hard to look at your circumstances and feel good about them when they don’t seem to warrant any good feelings.

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I know that when you don’t have much money it’s often hard to keep a positive attitude and move forward in your business.

It affects so much of your life.

You find yourself not exercising, eating a lot just to feel comfort, sometimes being nasty to others even when you don’t mean to.

You begin to panic and look around for the magic pill that’ll get you out of your mess further creating distraction and confusion for yourself.

You may even just stay in bed all day just waiting for the day to be over.

It’s a hard place to be… but it’s still a choice. Correction… it’s ALWAYS a choice.

This brings us to this final post on Money Myths. It’s myth #3: I have to wait to have more money before I can feel good. Click here if you missed money myth #1 and money myth #2.

Often as a society we think that if we just had more money or if we could just reach the level of success we’ve so desired that then we could feel free to BE happy.

Certainly you can work hard and have success, but once you reach that seeming “destination” people often realize that they still don’t feel whole.

They often feel like there’s something still missing.

Jim Carey, actor, comedian and thought leader said: “I wish that people could realize all their dreams & wealth & fame so that they could see that it’s not where you’re going to find your sense of completion.

There is a really wealthy, well-known, entrepreneurial coach who earlier this year at one of his live events broke down in front of all his peers, colleagues, and clients and admitted that he still didn’t feel whole with all that he had.

Now this man has a beautiful wife and kids, millions of dollars, is a best selling author, has plenty of raving fans and clients, a beautiful home, travels the world speaking on live stages, has some of the most influential thought leaders on the planet as his friends and yet there he was in tears admitting that he still didn’t feel whole.

He still wasn’t genuinely happy.

So how can someone who seems to have everything be without happiness or be “without” wholeness? How is that possible?

Now I can’t say for certain why he felt this way, because I don’t know why he was vibrationally in that space on that particular day.

But I know that the overwhelming reason that people can have so much and still feel this way is because they are looking outside of themselves for that which can only be found WITHIN.

Many don’t realize that the void that they’re feeling can’t be filled with things or satisfied simply through action because the feeling of void is really only about their connection (or lack thereof) with themSELVES.

But people play the game of separation extremely well. I’m certainly guilty of this myself from time to time.

It’s the game that says that you are separate from Source, God, Spirit, the Divine, the Universe, Infinite Intelligence… and you do everything on your own.

You strive, struggle, achieve and make it all happen yourself.

I get it, we forget the truth sometimes…

But then… you look to other humans for your validation, security and support. Awww, snap!

You’ve made them your Source.

They are NEVER your direct Source.

They are all simply channels for your good to come through.

But all is not lost.

Fast forward a few months to this past October and that well known coach I talked about, has changed his life yet again.

No longer satisfied with havin’ it all and not feelin’ whole he’s brilliantly blended the inner with the outer and created one of his most successful programs to date and it was a “spiritually” focused program.

Nothing beats being aligned with who you really are. NOTHING, not action, not more money, nothing!

None of this is to say to you that you should stop being, doing or having anything that you want.

Maybe you do want the kind of lifestyle and success that this coach has, and you absolutely should if that is what you desire… it is really a beautiful thing. We can work together to help you reach your goals here.

But do it from a place of already knowing you are whole. Do it from a place of connectedness.

You don’t need to keep “workin’ on yourself” before you make a move.

You can do both the inner & outer work simultaneously and consistently in little increments that won’t make you crazy.

Your call to action moving forward:

-Take time each day to connect with Spirit (or whatever you resonate with).

-Take time each day to find things to be happy about. Find things to appreciate.

-Before you do anything set an intention for what you would like to unfold.

*And go about your day doing your work unencumbered by thoughts of trying to “make things happen.”

If you’re going to market, don’t do it with a mindset of “I hope they’ll understand me this time,” “I hope they’ll buy from me this time,” “I gotta figure out just what to offer so they’ll buy,” “it’s just gotta be perfect, cause I need this money,” “God I hope I say the perfect thing this time,” “God I hope this works…”


When thoughts like that come, just notice them, don’t judge them, thank them for  their intention of TRYING to keep you safe, and then…

Tune in, set your intention, asking for guidance as you begin your task and then let go and let it flow through you.

It might take you a few minutes to get into the flow and find your way but know that you’re on the right path and that whatever flows from you, whatever ideas come to you, whatever you’re guided to is perfect in that moment.

And if you find yourself distracted again and confused. STOP. Regroup. Meditate. Go For a Walk. Dance. Have a Quickie. Whatever.

Set your intention again, and then… Just go with it!

Don’t be afraid to get it wrong, it’s all good!!!

If you need help with the inner game and the outer  marketing stuff I’m here.

Build that momentum.

The Universe has your back and everything is always working out for you.

I know sometimes it’s hard to look life in the face and say “I’m gonna feel good anyway.” It’s almost like a f*ckin’ dare, but you’ve gotta trust that it’s ok to feel good.

Give yourself permission. Fear and love can’t live in the same space.

Remember feeling good about YOU is the way. It’s the key to the kingdom.

And if you really look, there are plenty of things to feel good about.

I’ll leave it up to you to discipline yourself to look for those things. If you don’t want to, no worries you can keep your misery.

But tell me, brilliant one… How much is misery really “worth” to you? Will you stop sacrificing your happiness for it?

3 Money Myths to Stop F*ing Believin’ In Now! (Belief #2)


Most of us have a tug-of-war type of relationship with money.

We think it’s scarce, demands a lot of us, and is totally unpredictable.

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We think it’s completely out of our control and that there are forces outside of ourselves that call all the shots.

We have it tied up with our businesses.

We have it tied up with our jobs – jobs that, for the most part we can’t stand and basically resent.

So it probably goes without saying that thoughts like these do not make for a really great relationship.

Myth #2 in this 3-part series of money beliefs you should stop f*ing believing in now is that you have to work your ass off to get it. If you didn’t get a chance to read about Myth #1 click here to check it out.

When I was working on my undergrad degree after a long period off to be a mommy, I was talking to my mother telling her of my plans for the final year ahead.

To which she told me that she didn’t think that I could raise my son, carry a full course load, be a research assistant, and have a research internship on the side.

It was a lot, but all I heard was “you can’t do it.”

Admittedly I’d felt inferior in my mothers eyes for a very long time and couldn’t figure out why.

Today I do know exactly why… but we’ll leave that for another time.

Bless my mom, we have a pretty good relationship today but back then our relationship was a bitch.

So… what do you do when someone tells you that you can’t do something?

You set out to prove just how wrong they are, right? Right.

I bussed my ass in school.

I got straight A’s, I got scholarships, grants & fellowships and did my best as a single mom.

But all mind you… to the detriment of one very important thing… my happiness.

I sacrificed my happiness because I had to prove myself, and not just to my mother but to everyone who had their eyes on me. I had to prove that I was worthy.

Worthy of their respect and praise.

I connected my achievements with my worthiness because it seemed that that’s how the world worked.

I mean teachers assign grades every day that say you’re work is worth an “A” or your work is worth an “F.”

And if your work is worth an “F,” they’re not just saying “oh maybe she’s brilliant in other ways,” no they’re often saying “something is wrong with this one.”

And it’s the same thing we do with money.

You push and buss your ass because the world says that if you will just fill your bucket with blood, sweat and tears you’ll prove your worthiness to the world, command our respect, and eventually gain your reward.

But how many of you are breaking your necks unhappily working hard in business or your job just to eek by.

And still you put in even more hours just trying to stay ahead of the game (or so you think).

Why are you not seeing the reward? Doesn’t hard work equal more money?

What it comes down to is this…

Any action taken from a place of LACK is always going to be counterproductive and perpetuate more feelings of lack which in turn creates more lackful experiences in your life.

You can’t satisfy that nagging feeling of “not having enough” simply by working harder.

The results you’re seeing is about the vibration of “not having enough” that you’re constantly emitting.

It’s about the gap between what you want and your habit of thought about having it.

The good news is you can turn it all around. Just take your time.

If you’ll start with how you want to FEEL or BE (before you do anything) and you let that inspiration to DO come from that place of alignment, then not only will you KNOW that you are worthy and that there’s nothing to prove to ANYONE, you will actually enjoy the things you DO, infuse that energy into your work and soon enjoy the rewards of those actions.

This isn’t about never working “hard,” because the things that you DO can enhance your state of being.

You have to keep in mind however, that what seems like “hard work” to some, may be “effortless” to others. It’s all perception.

But you always want to set an intention to do your “work” from a place of feeling good or from a place of feeling confident, or from a place of feeling like you’re being of service, or sometimes even from a place of “I don’t give a fuck, this is what I want to do in this moment, this is how I wanna do it, and I don’t care what anybody else is gonna think,” then you come from a place of power and the things you want must make their way into your world.

Stop looking outside of yourself to your job or your business or other people as the source of your good or your money.

They are not the Source. You are the Source. You are connected to the Source. They are simply channels.

Be so f*ing good to yourself that life can’t help but be so f*ing good to you.


3 Money Myths to Stop F*ing Believin’ In Now! (Belief #1)


There are a lot of beliefs that we’ve picked up along our physical trail of life that are still serving us well, but there are many more that have overstayed their welcome in our minds.

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I’m sure you’ve heard me say it before… A belief is simply a thought you keep thinking over and over and over. That’s it, plain and simple and the great thing is that this is something you have control over. You have the freedom to think ANYTHING you choose… ANYTHING!

You have the ability to activate a new belief and thus change the story that is your life. You can edit your own movie NOW!

It’s time to question some beliefs about one of the biggest areas so many smart, bad-ass, spiritually minded coaches struggle with… money!

There are 3 common myths about money that I want to bust in this 3-part series.

The choice of whether you choose to start believing differently will be up to you. But for now just suspend your belief in what you thought was true for a little while. You can return to your misery any time you want, but just gimme a few minutes here, ok?

I want to jump in with one of the biggest myths spiritually minded entrepreneurs succumb to when building their business… and it goes like this…

Myth #1: It’s wrong to charge for the talents I’ve gotten from Spirit/God/the Divine (whatever resonates)…

Here’s the thing… ALL your talents are from spirit. You’re a SPIRITUAL being having a physical experience. You’re more “Spirit/Energy” than flesh, blood and bone. All of your talents are Spiritual. Even if your talent is putting both your legs behind your head and well…

Look, why do we think it’s perfectly fine for doctors, attorneys, architects and the like to make good money for what they do but not for a “spiritual” person? Why do we deem what they do far more important than the talent we have?

Who in the fuck said it was spiritual and virtuous to struggle all the damn time? Who the fuck shared that fucking mental virus with the world. That shit DID NOT come from God/the Universe/Spirit or any such place! But I won’t get into that discussion in this post.

If we’re being honest with ourselves the real reason we set upon our “spiritual path” or go to church or seek for the answers to why we’re here and how to make sense of our lives is because we want the fucking struggle to end!

We want to finally find relief from the struggles we’re experiencing in our health, relationships, finances, etc. And we want to feel on purpose instead of flailing around like a fart in a stiff wind. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting the struggle to end or the methods you’ve been using up until now to do it, but I’ve got to tell ya…

The answers to the end of struggle aren’t actually out “there.” We are “truth” creators, we are writing the script of our lives and starring in the movie NOW… every frickin’ moment we’re thinking and feeling. And every time we continue to look “out there” we meet with resistance. The savior ain’t out there, “it’s” right where you are NOW!

It’s time to do away with this myth.

Money is simply energy. Don’t give it super powers. When you look to it as the source of your salvation you block the flow of it coming to you in the myriad forms of abundance that it comes.

There are so many of you who have bleeding hearts, who want to see that the “less fortunate” have what they need. And if you have to sacrifice by just getting by you’ll do it, because at least you can rest with the peace of mind that you’re changing lives, right? Well it’s really hard to rest when you’re up worrying all night about how to make more money and get more clients and change your own life.

And further, here’s the thing about wanting to see that the “less fortunate” (or people who can’t afford you) have what they need.

#1 When you see others as less fortunate you disempower them. You can’t hold others as powerful if you’re seeing them as weak and helpless. You don’t uplift them from your place of “seeing” them in lack. Not only do you disempower them, you reinforce feelings of lack within yourself and now you must experience more of it in your own life, that’s how the Law of Attraction works.

These people aren’t helpless or weak. The same power that is within you is powerfully coursing through their veins too. You must see them as powerful. This goes for whether you’re makin’ money in your biz or not!

Power coaching tip

Your clients and potential clients are a source of infinite supply just like YOU. You must create a space for them to rise into that by holding them as powerful. ALWAYS hold clients and potential clients as powerful!!!

#2 If you’re not pulling in enough income for yourself first because you’re afraid to charge more or you’re letting people pay at discounted prices all the time, or don’t even like talking about money… you’re going to continue to struggle and end up resenting your clients because you’re not being paid well for your work.

You could be giving your all to your clients but when you’re done with those sessions and you look at your own life and you see that you didn’t fasten your own life preserver BEFORE you helped them, that fleeting good feeling of satisfaction is going to drown right along with you.

It is wonderful to be able to make a contribution in the lives of others, but it’s even better when you’re not scrambling to meet your own needs, right? You are so much more creative and powerful when you’re not fucking worried about money all the time.

Am I right or am I right?

We’ll bust another myth in our next post. In the meantime read this article again and decide whether you’re done being buffeted about like a cork on a choppy sea or not. I’ll help you float more peacefully downstream: Click here.

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The #1 reason most of your efforts to “get,” achieve, attract and manifest aren’t working!


In a recent survey I sent out to my delicious tribe of peeps I received responses with a very common theme. That theme… continuously attracting people who don’t have the money to work with you, attracting less than ideal clients/potential clients, and not having a steady stream of clients, let alone the kind you actually LOVE working with.

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The prevailing feeling I got from reflecting on their responses was that they felt like there was something either within them or outside of them blocking their desires.

Here’s what I told them in my latest newsletter (which you can sign up for by claiming the free goodie in the upper right hand corner of this page):

“I want you to know right from the start of this article, there’s a part of you that’s never been damaged so it doesn’t need to be fixed or healed. It is already whole & complete and can’t be improved upon.

Most of your efforts to “get,” achieve, attract & manifest are the very resistance(s) that are preventing your good from unfolding in your life.

Underneath your attempts to get more and attract more are the beliefs that you’re lacking, that you’re broken or that something is missing. So guess what you continue to manifest… more of “not having.” More of “not enough-ness.”

I’ve seen many trying to do all the processes in the world to attract and manifest but then you’re on the verge of losing everything. And it’s painful I know, I’ve been there. And it hurts most of all because you’re so brilliant, have great expertise, you’re spiritual, smart, have a great personality, you think positively, and you take action (or at least you try to), right?

But here’s the thing… Whenever you make anything outside of yourself the Source of anything (your safety, security, support…) the Universe is set up to disappoint you. As long as you think that something outside of you is your Source (i.e., your money, your bank account, your job, your business, your clients, your social media followers, your mate, whatever) you have to give your power away

You have to start trying to control conditions. You have to start hustling, conforming and adapting and being other than who you really are.  You’re no longer standing in YOUR truth.

Even if you willed yourself into creating a business full of clients paying you great money, you still end up just broke at a higher level of income.

Even if you created/manifested a brand new fabulous car, you still find yourself unable to keep up with the car note, insurance and maintenance.

Even if you created a new relationship, you still find yourself having the same damn arguments and problems over and over.

The problem… you’ve tried to change the world but you’re consciousness is still the same. They say “wherever you go, you take yourself with you.” It’s completely true. 

Life is consciousness. Life is lived through you and as you. Everything you need in your life is already here. You are already it!

Financial abundance is an emotional journey plain and simple. No-one and nothing can add anything to you and no-one can take it away, because YOU are the Source of your good. You are not separate from Source, God, Spirit, the Divine, the Universe (whatever you identify with), you are connected and ARE Source. It’s what they mean when they say “I AM.” 

This is about expanding your “having” vibration… your “having” consciousness. Whatever is supposedly “missing” in your life is what you’re not giving. It’s what you’re not giving vibrationally, what you’re not activating, what you’re not radiating, what you’re not circulating from within.

What if you looked at your bank statement and whether it said you had a little or a lot you felt and knew that you were just as prosperous and wealthy? That state of being would produce a fruit after it’s own kind. That’s the state of “I am” and “I have” that you can cultivate

It’s an inner feeling that you have & “have abundantly.” And then you allow your thoughts, prayers, words and actions to come from this place of having & of wholeness rather than thinking, praying, wishing, affirming, talking and doing to “get” something which comes from a consciousness of not having.

Now, don’t misunderstand when I say no-one and no-thing outside of you is your Source. I want to be clear. Even though things may come to you through people, your business, your job, these things in and of themselves are not your Source. They are merely the channels through which your good comes. But when you hold on rigidly to them as being your only options for abundance, you shut down the myriad of avenues through which Source can bring you your good. You don’t make things happen, they happen through you!

Life’s not holding anything back from us, we are holding ourselves back from life.

Over the next few articles we’re going to be busting myths about money and abundance as we move into some brand new programs and offerings you’re going to love! 

Imagine being able to “generate” everything you need, no matter where you’ve come from, what you’ve been through, or what your current circumstances might look like.

Sound good to you? I thought so too. I’ll show you how…

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“Selling is pushy and I feel like I’m annoying people”


Selling is pushy and I feel like I’m annoying people…

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That’s what a friend of my mothers said while we were all out to lunch celebrating my mothers 25 years of service in her career. I had told my mothers friends what I do for a living and mentioned that I was launching a program soon on how to sell your services. I explained that many entrepreneurs view sales as a dirty word and as something they don’t actually realize they do in their businesses.

The friend in question was a retiree and had started a direct sales business on the side to make extra income. She said that she didn’t like to sell because she felt like she was being pushy and annoying people. She went on to say “there are just certain people who can do it and I’m just not made for it.” She said it so matter-a-factly as if that’s just the way sales is. I didn’t knock her for her perception. It’s one of the most common sticking points for entrepreneurs. Believe me I’ve been there.

The truth is that selling is not just for some people. When you run a business there are no two ways about it either you offer services and get paid for them or you don’t have a business, period. Offering your services and being paid for them is SELLING and it is absolutely a learnable skill just like anything else.

When you don’t share what you do with the intention of getting your transformation out there and being profitable, you do you and your potential clients a disservice. No one wins. You want to be doing what you love and have your financial needs met, right?

Then we’ve got to kill the noise on your fear of SELLING.

SELLING does not have to be a dirty word. In fact SELLING can be sexy! Especially when you change your mind about what selling is really about and create enticing heartfelt offers your potential clients truly want.

I’ll be teaching my peeps exactly how to do this in my upcoming course Sexy Soulful Selling. Get all the det’s by clicking here…

In fact, click here and get a taste of what I’ll be teaching in this free training audio: Sexy Soulful Selling: Your Gateway To Financial Orgasm!

Remember, selling isn’t something you do TO a person, it’s something you do FOR them.

I love you, and I sell to you because of it!


The Tongue Can Be Your Worst Enemy!













What you are about to read was taken
from an anonymous author.

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I am sharing this because many of us start
our day without minding something 
very important and then we wonder why
our day starts off unfavorably and just gets

Well you no longer have to guess why.

Because you are completely responsible,
and you have complete control over these
three important factors… your thoughts, words
and feelings.

These things cause the vibration that you 
live in and attract back to you all manner of
circumstances, people and events.

You’re picky about the clothes you wear, the
car you drive, where you live, and the food you
eat but you’re not picky about the thoughts
you think.

So this my friend is just a reminder of your
power to create your life and that includes
everything going on in your business.

Without further adieu here it is…


Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have
power to create conditions in your life. What you 
speak about, you can bring about.

If you keep saying you can’t stand your job, 
you might lose your job.

If you keep saying you can’t stand your body,
your body can become sick.

If you keep saying you can’t stand your car, 
your car could be stolen or just stop operating.

If you keep saying you’re broke, guess what?
You’ll always be broke.

If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or trust
a woman, you will always find someone in your
life to hurt and betray you.

If you keep saying you can’t find a job, you will
remain unemployed.

If you keep saying you can’t find someone to
love you or believe in you, your very thought
will attract more experiences to confirm your 

If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in
a relationship then you might end up with it.

Turn your thoughts and conversations around
to be more positive and power packed with faith,
hope, love and action.

Don’t be afraid to believe that you can have what
you want and deserve.

Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.

The minute you settle for less than you deserve,
you get even less than you settle for.

Thought I would share this with you. “In the search
for me, I discovered truth. In the search for truth,
I discovered love. In the search for love, I
discovered God. And in God, I have found everything…”


Begin this day right, remember how powerful
you are. Watch your thoughts and words they
become your life.

Create on purpose…



I had no money to feed my son…


There are times in our lives when we just don’t know where to turn, we can’t see how things are going to work out, and we’re scared.

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I remember such a moment years ago. It was about two months after I’d graduated from college. I was waiting for my very 1st child support check to come because all my stipends from school had finally dried up and I had no job.

I had a drop of gas left in the car. I had taken my son to school that morning and given him my last $5 to go on a field trip that day. There was only enough gas to go back to the school to pick him up and not enough to get us home. And what the hell were we gonna eat… I had no money.

I called the automated line to hear how much I would be receiving from child support that day. The message I heard made my heart sink because it wasn’t enough to get us through the week.

I called my son’s father in a rage knowing that it had to be his fault. He probably hadn’t made his payment, it was something I’d never put past him at the time.

I was angry. He’d told me that he’d made his payment, but I couldn’t believe him, he had a loooonnnnng history of lying to me about everything. I thought “how could he do this to our son… again.” Then I thought, “Why did I expect things to be different?” I hung up the phone and I cried.

There were a few hours left before I had to go pick my son up from school. I didn’t know what to do.

I had been studying an old Tony Robbins course I’d borrowed from my mother a few weeks earlier. Between job searches I began to study success, spirituality and had started meditating. I had been doing every single exercise he had in that program with a commitment I’d never felt before.

I took a deep breath and calmed myself down. I got out my journal that day, which was aptly titled “The Journey of My Success,” and I turned to the page which read “5 problem solving questions.

The picture above is the exact page from that journal and all that other crap hanging out is some of the best stuff I’ve ever written down in my life to help me along my journey.

But back to the story…

I went through each question writing down my answers. Here are the questions:

  1. What’s great about this? If nothing… What could be great about this?
  2. What’s not perfect yet?
  3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
  4. What am I willing to no longer do in order to have things the way I want them?
  5. How can I do what’s necessary to get the job done and enjoy the process?

Something shifted in me at that moment and even though I still didn’t know what to do I felt a sense of trust and ease.

I got up from my chair knowing that I didn’t have any gas to drive anywhere and I walked all the way to the college library. It was maybe a 10 minute walk. It was a gorgeous, warm sunny day and as I walked I just appreciated the day and my life. After I spent some time there it was time to head home to get the car so I could go pick my son up from school.

Still unsure of what to do and admittedly a twinge worried, I headed back just trusting that things would work out. Faith was all I had.

I got back to our apartment and checked the mailbox and there in that box were two child support checks!! The automated system had only registered one of them. I was amazed and utterly relieved.

I went to put gas in the car and pick my son up from school. He was happy to see me as usual and totally oblivious to our situation. He talked on about his field trip and we had a fabulous day together. It warmed my heart to know that we were taken care of.

But the goodness doesn’t end there… I got a job that same month. A job which afforded me time in my work day to still read and work on my success practices. I had a spacious desk and a huge window with plenty of sunshine pouring in. And even though I wasn’t returning to school that fall to join the Masters in Family Therapy program I was accepted into, I’d received “out of the blue,” a $5000 scholarship I hadn’t even applied for from the Mayor of Detroit for being an exemplary student. Holy shit…

We’ve all got our stories, we’ve all had our dramas, and our real life struggles. I’ve got a shitload of stories that luckily I can now look back on and supremely appreciate and or laugh at til’ it hurts.

There are probably still going to be times when you don’t know if things are going to work out, there may still be times when you’re scared, there may still be times when you want to crawl into a hole and not come out until things are better, but I’ll tell you those things can become few and far between because… you’re never, ever alone. 

There is the human part of you, but there is also the bigger spiritual part of you. You are a spiritual being having a human experience and when you trust that you’re taken care of, I mean really trust… I promise you, you will be.

Don’t ask questions like, Why isn’t anything working? or What’s wrong with me? Those questions dis-empower you.

Don’t bank all your faith on what you hope others are gonna do for you. Put you’re faith in the indwelling power of spirit that is within you. The power that brings great things to you “through” other people. Go directly to the source and you’ll never fail. Ask empowering questions and watch as you’re guided right to the answers. Get the hell outta your own way and let the magic happen…

I love you,




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More Discovery Sessions = More Clients, 5 Ways To Have More


[Repost from 8/13/13]

Maybe you’ve heard and maybe you haven’t (I certainly didn’t when I had my shingle out as a relationship coach), that the #1 way to get clients is to have discovery sessions.” It goes by many names in the coaching industry… intro sessions, sample sessions, free sessions, “get to know you sessions,” etc.

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Most, if not all of your clients will come to you from these sessions. You certainly want to have a conversation with them to see if they are a fit for you anyway so it sort of goes without saying that you have to have conversations with potential clients.

If you don’t have enough coaching clients part of the reason is because you’re not getting enough people to have discovery sessions. How many clients you have is mostly determined by 3 things:

  1. How many discovery sessions you do each month
  2. How long clients actually stick around
  3. How good you are at enrolling people from the discovery session into hiring you as their coach

Seriously, if you can improve any of these areas your coaching business will definitely grow, and if you can get all three poppin’ woohoo your business is going to soar!

So let’s get to the juicy part:

Here are 5 ways to start having a lot more discovery sessions and a lot more clients.

1. Use your newsletter. If you don’t have one, they’re pretty easy to get set up. You can use Constant Contact (they have a free 60 day trial), Aweber (only $1 to start), and even Wysija (a wordpress plugin that allows you to send newsletters right from inside your own wordpress blog). There are many other options but these are a few of the most commonly used.

And here’s something the guru’s don’t tell you. You don’t have to have a “Newsletter.” You can send an informative email (consistently) with links to your website, blog, and social media outlets for example. Newsletters do have a professional feel, but what I’m attracted to isn’t necessarily the look of the newsletter as I am in the content that is being shared. If the content is great and I can benefit from it I don’t give a crap what the newsletter looks like. Admittedly I find that it’s the male species who can just reel me in with a plain old content rich email. I find that women do like the beauty of a newsletter. Do what feels good to you.

So here’s whatcha’ do… Send out an offer for a free session to your newsletter list. Maybe you’d give it a name like “Relationship Rehab Session” or “Save My Sex Life Session.” And don’t make this mistake… Most coaches put their offer deep into their newsletter where only a few people will see it. And with almost everyone using their phones and tablets these days to check on EVERYTHING, you want to have your offer there so they can see it before they even have an opportunity to scroll down. Send out a single newsletter/email specifically about the discovery session you’re offering!

2.  Grow your subscriber/newsletter list. This is where you’ll stay in contact with your potential peeps and can make your offers for a free session from time to time. Here’s a tip on where coaches go wrong. They don’t choose a target audience/niche. They’re not tuned into their SOUL clients. Granted when you’re first starting out in business it may take a little bit of time before you hone in on who you’d love to work with and that’s ok, you’ll find your way, but do it sooner than later.

When you’re fresh into dating you go through a few frogs before you kiss your prince(ss) charming, and along the way you develop a lot of preferences for the ideal mate(s) you want and would love to spend your time/life with. So it goes with your clients, you do have preferences and as you get clearer on them you’ll realize the benefits, ie., you’ll do your best work, marketing will become easier, you’re message will become clearer and you’ll love your clients and they’ll love you.

When you don’t get clear you end up writing about a bunch of general stuff that can help anyone, but does that capture the hearts and minds of people the way one specific group will? The result… your message is diluted and few people will ever end up reading your emails/newsletters on a regular basis. It is what it is.

3. Build a case for WHY someone should spend their time and energy having a discovery session with you. Many coaches describe their free session in such a blah way: “I offer a free exploratory coaching session. If you would like to see if coaching is a fit for you, call blah, blah, blah, or email blah, blah, blah.

blah, blah, blah session

Just because something is FREE99 (as my mate likes to call it) doesn’t mean people will want it. Honestly people can act like they love free sh@$ all day long, but the truth is that they value things that are free far less than they value things that they actually spent their money on. So in turn “free sessions” need to be “sold. Write up some COMPELLING (JUICY) reasons people should have a session with you and the real tangible benefits they’ll leave the session with.

4. Let people know that you want to work with them. When you rendezvous with people that you think would be great to work with, let them know “I’d like to coach you.” Many times they’ll be flattered. Compliment them by telling them why you’d like to work with them. “You know what, you have some really great energy and I’d like to watch you really get the love you deserve.” Or “I heard you tell your story and your passion just got me so inspired and I’d like to help you make your vision a reality.” Many people will be open to having a discovery session if it makes sense for them. So don’t forget to show them the value.

5. Go for the “easy yes” before you offer the free session. Many coaches don’t realize how uber-important these sessions are, but once they do they’re off and runnin’ offering sessions to everybody they meet at networking events. Don’t get me wrong this CAN be effective, however you miss out on connecting with and building a relationship that could later lead to a free session and hiring you. If telling someone you just met about your products and services is like trying to kiss someone you just met, then offering your session is like trying to hug someone you just met (even though for some strange reason people do want to hug me the first time we meet).

Instead you want offer a “Special Report (Ex. 7 Mistakes to Avoid Before You Get Into Your Next Relationship), Teleseminar, Audio Program, Video Tip(s) anything that is of extreme interest to the peeps you’re networking with. More people will jump at that offer and you’ll be able to stay in contact with them so you can send them your articles, blog posts, tips, newsletters, etc., and later offer your free session.

So get out there (no huggin’ and kissin’ just yet), give great value, get some discovery sessions going & you’ll most certainly start getting a lot more clients!


P.S. “Get More Clients” Sessions are available on a limited basis. Get your spot now. Your peeps are waiting for you. When you help people get what they want, you can’t help but be successful. Get your application here.


5 Biggest Mistakes that Turn Clients Off (Parts 3-5)


In my last article we talked about 2 of the 5 biggest mistakes that turn clients off. If you missed mistakes 1 and 2 you can click here to read that post. There are 3 more mistakes that are just as critical as the first two.

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Let’s have a look see shall we…

Mistake #3

Working with any and everybody.

I know this is a tough one for a lot of relationship and sex pros. I get it, as soulful entrepreneurs we’ve got talents and gifts coming out our hoo-has, and sometimes it’s hard to know which is the best passion to follow at any given time. We know we can help lots of people and we know that we could be really brilliant with what we have to share.

But when you’re trying to work with everybody your message gets diluted. Your signal is going out but it’s all over the place. It’s not tuned to your ideal clients, you don’t stand out from the crowd and/or hardly anyone’s picking up your signal because you’re so scattered.

Even if you were just a life coach in general, there are still clients who are ideal for you. But I don’t think you’d be very effective just by saying “I work with anyone 18-80, whether they’re blind, cripple and crazy.

Imagine with me for a moment that you had a nice amount of clientele, but your whole practice was full of headache clients. How much do you think you would hate your work? Headache-Client-JeeJee-Saafir

When you work with anybody and everybody and you’re not specific about those who are the best match for you, you run the risk of attracting a hodge podge of clients who might be demanding, needy, desperate, or (add annoying behavior here)… I won’t say they’d all be like that but if you don’t get specific you could bet you’d get your share of headache clients.

The problem is that there’s this underlying fear going on behind the scenes when you say “Oh, I work with anybody,” or “I don’t want to choose…” you’re actually expressing an energy of lack and limitation.

It’s about being afraid to leave people out & what’s really behind that fear is the fear of “what if no body shows up,” “what if I don’t get any clients.”

So when you have a process for getting clear on who your ideal client is you begin to attract those who are a match for you and you stop wasting your time with people who aren’t.

Now I’m not telling you to pick a niche that you have to stick with forever but you do need to make a decision on who you’d be the greatest service to right now and move forward with that…

It’s similar to dating. If you’re dating, you’re not going around trying to make every single person you date “the one.” You have preferences about the person (or persons… however you swing) you want to be with, so you need to have preferences about your clients too. You deserve to work with clients you enjoy. These are your SOUL clients. It’s no different from  looking to attract your SOUL mate.

Mistake #4

Keeping your fees low and undercharging. There’s a couple of reasons this is such a big mistake. Let’s dive in.

A. What do people associate higher fees with? Quality, right?

When you go to the movies, you have options: there’s the regular show, there’s 3D, there’s the IMAX experience, there’s 4D, some theaters have reclining seats, you can buy drinks and the whole nine. Sure it costs a little more but you’re paying for quality, you’re paying for a better experience, right? If you go to the dollar show there’s a different quality there. Nothing wrong with that but there’s a different crowd and a different quality.

B. Believe it or not, when you keep your fees low clients are going to doubt your abilities. They are questioning whether you can really help them get results.

C. The big reason keeping your fees low is a turnoff, is because when you do that you attract people with low commitment.When people are investing higher fees their level of commitment is very high. They show up in a different way, you show up in a different way. They actually do the work. You get to hold them accountable and you get to help them. You get to show them how to do things and coach them through whatever is happening. And none of that happens if people aren’t committed.

Mistake #5

Discounting your expertise. A lot of coaches are afraid to be the expert they truly are. You’re afraid you don’t know enough, or you wonder “does anyone care about my experiences.”

People do care about your story & it’s what they care about most. This is one of the #1 credibility boosters that matter most to the clients who are willing to pay you. It’s your personal story.

Think of the mentors you’ve invested in, and if you haven’t I hope you will soon, cause believe me nobody makes it there alone. Even the people at the top, the millionaires, multi-millionaires and agents of change in this world have their own mentors and advisors and support, and they all have their stories. Your story tells your clients that you understand them. They want to know that you get them.

Don’t discount your expertise or the value you bring to the table. Years from now someone might be saying this about you: “Damn I’m glad (insert your name) did her thing and shared her expertise with me because she really helped change my life.”

Check in with yourself, are you making any of these mistakes?

Don’t beat up on yourself, you’re just a few tweaks away.

I’m here to help you right now. Send an email to info@jeejeesaafir.com and let’s see if I’m a match to help you today.

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