Feeling busy & productive but completely overwhelmed and at the end of the day results seem to show you really didn’t accomplish much?
I know the feeling…
Let’s turn that around.
In this video the talented Marie Forleo sits down with well known expert Dr. Ned Hallowell who helps people perform better, as they discuss tips on how to get back in control.
Dr. Ned says “…with modern life the great thing is you can do so much, but the problem is… you can do so much“
Lemme know what ya think!
1. Define & set clear goals. Establish your short-term, medium-term and “life-term” goals. Prioritize!
2. Avoid screen-sucking… You know you do it! It’s easy to get sucked into checking emails, social media, etc. Turn away!
3. Setting your default response to “Let me get back to you on that…” Stop overcommitting… Say nope to overwhelm!
4. Never worry alone. I would have a different take on this one but I get the intention. Who do you have in your life to turn to that will help you get solution focused and make a plan? Worrying can become toxic. Often you’ll find your worrying is pointless and unnecessary once you talk it through. You’re usually telling a “story” that’s not serving you. Have a good coach, colleague or friend to turn to?
5. Cultivate Lillies and Get Rid of Leeches. Which people or projects are truly worth spending time with and on? Who and what are your “lillies.” Even though there may be challenges or some effort needed on your part over the course of time, who and what are the people and projects that just feel worth it, and which one’s don’t? This goes for your personal and professional life.
You think you’re less powerful than you are. Stop pretending! You can get back on track. You’ve got this!
And if you don’t here’s help.
Your coaches request:
Get out of overwhelm, get prioritized, and gain control of every day distractions that keep you from the clients, income and impact you want to make. Learn exactly how in my free audio: 30 Minutes to More Clients. If you’ve listened before, listen again. There is no better time than NOW. Let’s get things in order and get back in control.
[Repost from July 2013]
Because when we’re not having fun or enjoying what we do it feels like drudgery. You don’t look forward to working with clients (and what kind of stinky energy do you think your sending with that kinda vibe goin’?). Do you know that whatever you write or record and share with others is infused with your energy. It doesn’t really matter what the words on the paper say, or what you’re saying in a video, it’s the energy that people are picking up on. You could have a crappy quality video or a half-ass written post or article, but if your energy is high with the intention of people finding benefit from what you’re sharing and especially if you’re doing it for fun or because it just feels good to you, that is the energy people will receive and that is good delicious, juicy energy.
You always want to keep that in mind whenever you create anything. Before you start, line up your energy, think and affirm what you want to happen or accomplish, and about how you want to feel.
For example, I could be creating a video. What do I want to accomplish? I want my viewer to enjoy it, be uplifted by it, find value in the information, or laugh, or feel empowered, or feel connected to me because they feel I get them. That’s my intention. And I want to feel good while I’m making the video because at the end of the day that’s the reason we want anything, because we think we will feel good in having it. So when you start with the end result (feeling good) you can’t help but get what you want. So I selfishly create videos and audios and written word because I want to feel good and share that with the world and profit!!! What about you?
Your Coaches Request: What can you create and infuse with your delicious energy to share with your ideal peeps… an article, video, audio, freebie, program, product. Get on with it.
Need help with infusing YOU into your marketing efforts, I got you. Send an email to email@example.com to schedule your “BEing the Irresistible Offer” Discovery Session to help you uncover the gaps you’re having in the energy and actions your taking in your marketing.
To be a real leader and be marketable as a coach it comes down to these 8 important things…
#1 Marketable Content
Create simple content that helps your clients and potential peeps understand how you can help them.
Speak to problems, benefits and results.
Meet your client where their mind is at.
Make sure to give people what they want to buy, not what YOU think they need.
#2 Exercises, templates, checklists and scripts
People love done-for-you goodies because it helps shorten their learning curve.
It’s like giving them recipes to create their own delicious meals.
They know exactly what steps to take.
People like to know that it’s possible to get from point A to B and that they don’t have to figure it all out on their own.
They’ll love you for helping to make life easier for them.
#3 Empowering Questions
You can’t be a powerful coach without knowing how to ask powerful questions.
As coaches we hold our clients as powerful by understanding that they have the wisdom within them to solve their own problems. We just have to help them unearth it.
Great coaching questions are open-ended, non-judgmental and helps to foster new ideas, visions and possible solutions.
Sure we’ll give them practical tips and how-to’s along the way, but a clients own inner guidance is gold!
It takes the pressure off of you and puts the responsibility right in the clients lap to change their own lives.
Ultimately they’re the only one who can do it anyway.
#4 A belief change process that works
Your clients need inner and outer tools to get them to their goals.
When they get stuck and caught up in the same old fears (or new ones) they need a way to shift that energy so that they can realign with their goals and move forward.
Ultimately your clients need to be able to “self coach” themselves when they get stuck or overwhelmed, and especially when their not taking actions (mental or physical) that are in alignment with their goals.
You need to be able to support them in this process.
#5 Confidence in handling strong emotions without getting caught up in your clients’ stories
You need to be able to manage your own emotional energy on a daily basis so that you stand in your power as a coach when sessions get sticky.
Getting caught up in your client’s old stories is the best way to make sure your clients keep experiencing the things they do not want in their lives.
You don’t help them when you buy into their stories, you just add fuel to the fire.
You have to learn to create a balance between letting it be ok about where they’re at emotionally in that moment, and helping them move the energy so that they don’t stay there too long.
A powerful coach can snap someone out of it in less than 15 minutes!
#6 A simple system for coaching on money (it always comes up so you’ll need to be prepared)
Resistance and fears around money is a common issue.
As clients move forward they’ll come up against their gremlins many times, especially as they move to new levels of success.
You have to be able to coach them through their stories around money, period!
Their attitude about money will hold them back big time.
This is one area where even small mindset breakthroughs can create great results for your clients.
#7 A system for coaching clients on how to make decisions, how to get out of overwhelm, how to prioritize and how to get clear and confident in moving forward
You need to be able to support your clients in creating a plan that is aligned with their goals.
You never want to be all over the place trying to help them stay on task and solve their problems.
Creating an action plan and chunking it down into 30 days at a time actions will help clients feel that their goals are doable and they won’t succumb to overwhelm as easily.
#8 Know your own “BS” and be actively working on identifying and unhooking your triggers
We all have out judgments, attitudes and other quirks we bring with us.
Even if we don’t want to admit it, we’ve got our own shit goin’ on sometimes.
We’re not always on our game. And that’s ok. Own it. Accept it.
But you’ve got to know how to unhook from your own shit.
You’ve got to take notice of the things you’re triggered by when you’re in a session with a client (or before you even get into a session with a client) and you’ve got to take full responsibility for how you feel and or react.
Alignment is king! Knowing how to manage your emotional energy is paramount to your success in your personal and professional life.
I help my clients bust through emotional residue in no time.
There are simple processes to use anytime you need and most don’t take more than two minutes to get ya’ there!
Get these powerful coaching tips under your belt and you’ll be a highly marketable, in demand coach in no time.
Especially heed number 8, it’s the most important of all of them!
ALIGNMENT IS KING!
If you just can’t get those emotions under control, connect with me here and let’s talk about getting you some support.
I know that when you don’t have much money it’s often hard to keep a positive attitude and move forward in your business.
It affects so much of your life.
You find yourself not exercising, eating a lot just to feel comfort, sometimes being nasty to others even when you don’t mean to.
You begin to panic and look around for the magic pill that’ll get you out of your mess further creating distraction and confusion for yourself.
You may even just stay in bed all day just waiting for the day to be over.
It’s a hard place to be… but it’s still a choice. Correction… it’s ALWAYS a choice.
Often as a society we think that if we just had more money or if we could just reach the level of success we’ve so desired that then we could feel free to BE happy.
Certainly you can work hard and have success, but once you reach that seeming “destination” people often realize that they still don’t feel whole.
They often feel like there’s something still missing.
Jim Carey, actor, comedian and thought leader said: “I wish that people could realize all their dreams & wealth & fame so that they could see that it’s not where you’re going to find your sense of completion.”
There is a really wealthy, well-known, entrepreneurial coach who earlier this year at one of his live events broke down in front of all his peers, colleagues, and clients and admitted that he still didn’t feel whole with all that he had.
Now this man has a beautiful wife and kids, millions of dollars, is a best selling author, has plenty of raving fans and clients, a beautiful home, travels the world speaking on live stages, has some of the most influential thought leaders on the planet as his friends and yet there he was in tears admitting that he still didn’t feel whole.
He still wasn’t genuinely happy.
So how can someone who seems to have everything be without happiness or be “without” wholeness? How is that possible?
Now I can’t say for certain why he felt this way, because I don’t know why he was vibrationally in that space on that particular day.
But I know that the overwhelming reason that people can have so much and still feel this way is because they are looking outside of themselves for that which can only be found WITHIN.
Many don’t realize that the void that they’re feeling can’t be filled with things or satisfied simply through action because the feeling of void is really only about their connection (or lack thereof) with themSELVES.
But people play the game of separation extremely well. I’m certainly guilty of this myself from time to time.
It’s the game that says that you are separate from Source, God, Spirit, the Divine, the Universe, Infinite Intelligence… and you do everything on your own.
You strive, struggle, achieve and make it all happen yourself.
I get it, we forget the truth sometimes…
But then… you look to other humans for your validation, security and support. Awww, snap!
You’ve made them your Source.
They are NEVER your direct Source.
They are all simply channels for your good to come through.
But all is not lost.
Fast forward a few months to this past October and that well known coach I talked about, has changed his life yet again.
No longer satisfied with havin’ it all and not feelin’ whole he’s brilliantly blended the inner with the outer and created one of his most successful programs to date and it was a “spiritually” focused program.
Nothing beats being aligned with who you really are. NOTHING, not action, not more money, nothing!
None of this is to say to you that you should stop being, doing or having anything that you want.
Maybe you do want the kind of lifestyle and success that this coach has, and you absolutely should if that is what you desire… it is really a beautiful thing. We can work together to help you reach your goals here.
But do it from a place of already knowing you are whole. Do it from a place of connectedness.
You don’t need to keep “workin’ on yourself” before you make a move.
You can do both the inner & outer work simultaneously and consistently in little increments that won’t make you crazy.
Your call to action moving forward:
-Take time each day to connect with Spirit (or whatever you resonate with).
-Take time each day to find things to be happy about. Find things to appreciate.
-Before you do anything set an intention for what you would like to unfold.
*And go about your day doing your work unencumbered by thoughts of trying to “make things happen.”
If you’re going to market, don’t do it with a mindset of “I hope they’ll understand me this time,” “I hope they’ll buy from me this time,” “I gotta figure out just what to offer so they’ll buy,” “it’s just gotta be perfect, cause I need this money,” “God I hope I say the perfect thing this time,” “God I hope this works…”
When thoughts like that come, just notice them, don’t judge them, thank them for their intention of TRYING to keep you safe, and then…
Tune in, set your intention, asking for guidance as you begin your task and then let go and let it flow through you.
It might take you a few minutes to get into the flow and find your way but know that you’re on the right path and that whatever flows from you, whatever ideas come to you, whatever you’re guided to is perfect in that moment.
And if you find yourself distracted again and confused. STOP. Regroup. Meditate. Go For a Walk. Dance. Have a Quickie. Whatever.
Set your intention again, and then… Just go with it!
Don’t be afraid to get it wrong, it’s all good!!!
Build that momentum.
The Universe has your back and everything is always working out for you.
I know sometimes it’s hard to look life in the face and say “I’m gonna feel good anyway.” It’s almost like a f*ckin’ dare, but you’ve gotta trust that it’s ok to feel good.
Give yourself permission. Fear and love can’t live in the same space.
Remember feeling good about YOU is the way. It’s the key to the kingdom.
And if you really look, there are plenty of things to feel good about.
I’ll leave it up to you to discipline yourself to look for those things. If you don’t want to, no worries you can keep your misery.
But tell me, brilliant one… How much is misery really “worth” to you? Will you stop sacrificing your happiness for it?
Most of us have a tug-of-war type of relationship with money.
We think it’s completely out of our control and that there are forces outside of ourselves that call all the shots.
We have it tied up with our businesses.
We have it tied up with our jobs – jobs that, for the most part we can’t stand and basically resent.
So it probably goes without saying that thoughts like these do not make for a really great relationship.
Myth #2 in this 3-part series of money beliefs you should stop f*ing believing in now is that you have to work your ass off to get it. If you didn’t get a chance to read about Myth #1 click here to check it out.
When I was working on my undergrad degree after a long period off to be a mommy, I was talking to my mother telling her of my plans for the final year ahead.
To which she told me that she didn’t think that I could raise my son, carry a full course load, be a research assistant, and have a research internship on the side.
It was a lot, but all I heard was “you can’t do it.”
Admittedly I’d felt inferior in my mothers eyes for a very long time and couldn’t figure out why.
Today I do know exactly why… but we’ll leave that for another time.
Bless my mom, we have a pretty good relationship today but back then our relationship was a bitch.
So… what do you do when someone tells you that you can’t do something?
You set out to prove just how wrong they are, right? Right.
I bussed my ass in school.
I got straight A’s, I got scholarships, grants & fellowships and did my best as a single mom.
But all mind you… to the detriment of one very important thing… my happiness.
I sacrificed my happiness because I had to prove myself, and not just to my mother but to everyone who had their eyes on me. I had to prove that I was worthy.
Worthy of their respect and praise.
I connected my achievements with my worthiness because it seemed that that’s how the world worked.
I mean teachers assign grades every day that say you’re work is worth an “A” or your work is worth an “F.”
And if your work is worth an “F,” they’re not just saying “oh maybe she’s brilliant in other ways,” no they’re often saying “something is wrong with this one.”
And it’s the same thing we do with money.
You push and buss your ass because the world says that if you will just fill your bucket with blood, sweat and tears you’ll prove your worthiness to the world, command our respect, and eventually gain your reward.
But how many of you are breaking your necks unhappily working hard in business or your job just to eek by.
And still you put in even more hours just trying to stay ahead of the game (or so you think).
Why are you not seeing the reward? Doesn’t hard work equal more money?
What it comes down to is this…
Any action taken from a place of LACK is always going to be counterproductive and perpetuate more feelings of lack which in turn creates more lackful experiences in your life.
You can’t satisfy that nagging feeling of “not having enough” simply by working harder.
The results you’re seeing is about the vibration of “not having enough” that you’re constantly emitting.
It’s about the gap between what you want and your habit of thought about having it.
The good news is you can turn it all around. Just take your time.
If you’ll start with how you want to FEEL or BE (before you do anything) and you let that inspiration to DO come from that place of alignment, then not only will you KNOW that you are worthy and that there’s nothing to prove to ANYONE, you will actually enjoy the things you DO, infuse that energy into your work and soon enjoy the rewards of those actions.
This isn’t about never working “hard,” because the things that you DO can enhance your state of being.
You have to keep in mind however, that what seems like “hard work” to some, may be “effortless” to others. It’s all perception.
But you always want to set an intention to do your “work” from a place of feeling good or from a place of feeling confident, or from a place of feeling like you’re being of service, or sometimes even from a place of “I don’t give a fuck, this is what I want to do in this moment, this is how I wanna do it, and I don’t care what anybody else is gonna think,” then you come from a place of power and the things you want must make their way into your world.
Stop looking outside of yourself to your job or your business or other people as the source of your good or your money.
They are not the Source. You are the Source. You are connected to the Source. They are simply channels.
Be so f*ing good to yourself that life can’t help but be so f*ing good to you.
I’m sure you’ve heard me say it before… A belief is simply a thought you keep thinking over and over and over. That’s it, plain and simple and the great thing is that this is something you have control over. You have the freedom to think ANYTHING you choose… ANYTHING!
You have the ability to activate a new belief and thus change the story that is your life. You can edit your own movie NOW!
It’s time to question some beliefs about one of the biggest areas so many smart, bad-ass, spiritually minded coaches struggle with… money!
There are 3 common myths about money that I want to bust in this 3-part series.
The choice of whether you choose to start believing differently will be up to you. But for now just suspend your belief in what you thought was true for a little while. You can return to your misery any time you want, but just gimme a few minutes here, ok?
I want to jump in with one of the biggest myths spiritually minded entrepreneurs succumb to when building their business… and it goes like this…
Myth #1: It’s wrong to charge for the talents I’ve gotten from Spirit/God/the Divine (whatever resonates)…
Here’s the thing… ALL your talents are from spirit. You’re a SPIRITUAL being having a physical experience. You’re more “Spirit/Energy” than flesh, blood and bone. All of your talents are Spiritual. Even if your talent is putting both your legs behind your head and well…
Look, why do we think it’s perfectly fine for doctors, attorneys, architects and the like to make good money for what they do but not for a “spiritual” person? Why do we deem what they do far more important than the talent we have?
Who in the fuck said it was spiritual and virtuous to struggle all the damn time? Who the fuck shared that fucking mental virus with the world. That shit DID NOT come from God/the Universe/Spirit or any such place! But I won’t get into that discussion in this post.
If we’re being honest with ourselves the real reason we set upon our “spiritual path” or go to church or seek for the answers to why we’re here and how to make sense of our lives is because we want the fucking struggle to end!
We want to finally find relief from the struggles we’re experiencing in our health, relationships, finances, etc. And we want to feel on purpose instead of flailing around like a fart in a stiff wind. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting the struggle to end or the methods you’ve been using up until now to do it, but I’ve got to tell ya…
The answers to the end of struggle aren’t actually out “there.” We are “truth” creators, we are writing the script of our lives and starring in the movie NOW… every frickin’ moment we’re thinking and feeling. And every time we continue to look “out there” we meet with resistance. The savior ain’t out there, “it’s” right where you are NOW!
It’s time to do away with this myth.
Money is simply energy. Don’t give it super powers. When you look to it as the source of your salvation you block the flow of it coming to you in the myriad forms of abundance that it comes.
There are so many of you who have bleeding hearts, who want to see that the “less fortunate” have what they need. And if you have to sacrifice by just getting by you’ll do it, because at least you can rest with the peace of mind that you’re changing lives, right? Well it’s really hard to rest when you’re up worrying all night about how to make more money and get more clients and change your own life.
And further, here’s the thing about wanting to see that the “less fortunate” (or people who can’t afford you) have what they need.
#1 When you see others as less fortunate you disempower them. You can’t hold others as powerful if you’re seeing them as weak and helpless. You don’t uplift them from your place of “seeing” them in lack. Not only do you disempower them, you reinforce feelings of lack within yourself and now you must experience more of it in your own life, that’s how the Law of Attraction works.
These people aren’t helpless or weak. The same power that is within you is powerfully coursing through their veins too. You must see them as powerful. This goes for whether you’re makin’ money in your biz or not!
Power coaching tip!
Your clients and potential clients are a source of infinite supply just like YOU. You must create a space for them to rise into that by holding them as powerful. ALWAYS hold clients and potential clients as powerful!!!
#2 If you’re not pulling in enough income for yourself first because you’re afraid to charge more or you’re letting people pay at discounted prices all the time, or don’t even like talking about money… you’re going to continue to struggle and end up resenting your clients because you’re not being paid well for your work.
You could be giving your all to your clients but when you’re done with those sessions and you look at your own life and you see that you didn’t fasten your own life preserver BEFORE you helped them, that fleeting good feeling of satisfaction is going to drown right along with you.
It is wonderful to be able to make a contribution in the lives of others, but it’s even better when you’re not scrambling to meet your own needs, right? You are so much more creative and powerful when you’re not fucking worried about money all the time.
Am I right or am I right?
We’ll bust another myth in our next post. In the meantime read this article again and decide whether you’re done being buffeted about like a cork on a choppy sea or not. I’ll help you float more peacefully downstream: Click here.
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In a recent survey I sent out to my delicious tribe of peeps I received responses with a very common theme. That theme… continuously attracting people who don’t have the money to work with you, attracting less than ideal clients/potential clients, and not having a steady stream of clients, let alone the kind you actually LOVE working with.
The prevailing feeling I got from reflecting on their responses was that they felt like there was something either within them or outside of them blocking their desires.
Here’s what I told them in my latest newsletter (which you can sign up for by claiming the free goodie in the upper right hand corner of this page):
“I want you to know right from the start of this article, there’s a part of you that’s never been damaged so it doesn’t need to be fixed or healed. It is already whole & complete and can’t be improved upon.
Most of your efforts to “get,” achieve, attract & manifest are the very resistance(s) that are preventing your good from unfolding in your life.
Underneath your attempts to get more and attract more are the beliefs that you’re lacking, that you’re broken or that something is missing. So guess what you continue to manifest… more of “not having.” More of “not enough-ness.”
I’ve seen many trying to do all the processes in the world to attract and manifest but then you’re on the verge of losing everything. And it’s painful I know, I’ve been there. And it hurts most of all because you’re so brilliant, have great expertise, you’re spiritual, smart, have a great personality, you think positively, and you take action (or at least you try to), right?
But here’s the thing… Whenever you make anything outside of yourself the Source of anything (your safety, security, support…) the Universe is set up to disappoint you. As long as you think that something outside of you is your Source (i.e., your money, your bank account, your job, your business, your clients, your social media followers, your mate, whatever) you have to give your power away.
You have to start trying to control conditions. You have to start hustling, conforming and adapting and being other than who you really are. You’re no longer standing in YOUR truth.
Even if you willed yourself into creating a business full of clients paying you great money, you still end up just broke at a higher level of income.
Even if you created/manifested a brand new fabulous car, you still find yourself unable to keep up with the car note, insurance and maintenance.
Even if you created a new relationship, you still find yourself having the same damn arguments and problems over and over.
The problem… you’ve tried to change the world but you’re consciousness is still the same. They say “wherever you go, you take yourself with you.” It’s completely true.
Life is consciousness. Life is lived through you and as you. Everything you need in your life is already here. You are already it!
Financial abundance is an emotional journey plain and simple. No-one and nothing can add anything to you and no-one can take it away, because YOU are the Source of your good. You are not separate from Source, God, Spirit, the Divine, the Universe (whatever you identify with), you are connected and ARE Source. It’s what they mean when they say “I AM.”
This is about expanding your “having” vibration… your “having” consciousness. Whatever is supposedly “missing” in your life is what you’re not giving. It’s what you’re not giving vibrationally, what you’re not activating, what you’re not radiating, what you’re not circulating from within.
What if you looked at your bank statement and whether it said you had a little or a lot you felt and knew that you were just as prosperous and wealthy? That state of being would produce a fruit after it’s own kind. That’s the state of “I am” and “I have” that you can cultivate.
It’s an inner feeling that you have & “have abundantly.” And then you allow your thoughts, prayers, words and actions to come from this place of having & of wholeness rather than thinking, praying, wishing, affirming, talking and doing to “get” something which comes from a consciousness of not having.
Now, don’t misunderstand when I say no-one and no-thing outside of you is your Source. I want to be clear. Even though things may come to you through people, your business, your job, these things in and of themselves are not your Source. They are merely the channels through which your good comes. But when you hold on rigidly to them as being your only options for abundance, you shut down the myriad of avenues through which Source can bring you your good. You don’t make things happen, they happen through you!
Life’s not holding anything back from us, we are holding ourselves back from life.
Over the next few articles we’re going to be busting myths about money and abundance as we move into some brand new programs and offerings you’re going to love!
Imagine being able to “generate” everything you need, no matter where you’ve come from, what you’ve been through, or what your current circumstances might look like.
Sound good to you? I thought so too. I’ll show you how…
That’s what a friend of my mothers said while we were all out to lunch celebrating my mothers 25 years of service in her career. I had told my mothers friends what I do for a living and mentioned that I was launching a program soon on how to sell your services. I explained that many entrepreneurs view sales as a dirty word and as something they don’t actually realize they do in their businesses.
The friend in question was a retiree and had started a direct sales business on the side to make extra income. She said that she didn’t like to sell because she felt like she was being pushy and annoying people. She went on to say “there are just certain people who can do it and I’m just not made for it.” She said it so matter-a-factly as if that’s just the way sales is. I didn’t knock her for her perception. It’s one of the most common sticking points for entrepreneurs. Believe me I’ve been there.
The truth is that selling is not just for some people. When you run a business there are no two ways about it either you offer services and get paid for them or you don’t have a business, period. Offering your services and being paid for them is SELLING and it is absolutely a learnable skill just like anything else.
When you don’t share what you do with the intention of getting your transformation out there and being profitable, you do you and your potential clients a disservice. No one wins. You want to be doing what you love and have your financial needs met, right?
Then we’ve got to kill the noise on your fear of SELLING.
SELLING does not have to be a dirty word. In fact SELLING can be sexy! Especially when you change your mind about what selling is really about and create enticing heartfelt offers your potential clients truly want.
I’ll be teaching my peeps exactly how to do this in my upcoming course Sexy Soulful Selling. Get all the det’s by clicking here…
In fact, click here and get a taste of what I’ll be teaching in this free training audio: Sexy Soulful Selling: Your Gateway To Financial Orgasm!
Remember, selling isn’t something you do TO a person, it’s something you do FOR them.
I love you, and I sell to you because of it!
I am sharing this because many of us start
our day without minding something
very important and then we wonder why
our day starts off unfavorably and just gets
Well you no longer have to guess why.
Because you are completely responsible,
and you have complete control over these
three important factors… your thoughts, words
These things cause the vibration that you
live in and attract back to you all manner of
circumstances, people and events.
You’re picky about the clothes you wear, the
car you drive, where you live, and the food you
eat but you’re not picky about the thoughts
So this my friend is just a reminder of your
power to create your life and that includes
everything going on in your business.
Without further adieu here it is…
THE TONGUE CAN BE YOUR WORST ENEMY!
Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have
power to create conditions in your life. What you
speak about, you can bring about.
If you keep saying you can’t stand your job,
you might lose your job.
If you keep saying you can’t stand your body,
your body can become sick.
If you keep saying you can’t stand your car,
your car could be stolen or just stop operating.
If you keep saying you’re broke, guess what?
You’ll always be broke.
If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or trust
a woman, you will always find someone in your
life to hurt and betray you.
If you keep saying you can’t find a job, you will
If you keep saying you can’t find someone to
love you or believe in you, your very thought
will attract more experiences to confirm your
If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in
a relationship then you might end up with it.
Turn your thoughts and conversations around
to be more positive and power packed with faith,
hope, love and action.
Don’t be afraid to believe that you can have what
you want and deserve.
Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.
The minute you settle for less than you deserve,
you get even less than you settle for.
Thought I would share this with you. “In the search
for me, I discovered truth. In the search for truth,
I discovered love. In the search for love, I
discovered God. And in God, I have found everything…”
Begin this day right, remember how powerful
you are. Watch your thoughts and words they
become your life.
Create on purpose…
I remember such a moment years ago. It was about two months after I’d graduated from college. I was waiting for my very 1st child support check to come because all my stipends from school had finally dried up and I had no job.
I had a drop of gas left in the car. I had taken my son to school that morning and given him my last $5 to go on a field trip that day. There was only enough gas to go back to the school to pick him up and not enough to get us home. And what the hell were we gonna eat… I had no money.
I called the automated line to hear how much I would be receiving from child support that day. The message I heard made my heart sink because it wasn’t enough to get us through the week.
I called my son’s father in a rage knowing that it had to be his fault. He probably hadn’t made his payment, it was something I’d never put past him at the time.
I was angry. He’d told me that he’d made his payment, but I couldn’t believe him, he had a loooonnnnng history of lying to me about everything. I thought “how could he do this to our son… again.” Then I thought, “Why did I expect things to be different?” I hung up the phone and I cried.
There were a few hours left before I had to go pick my son up from school. I didn’t know what to do.
I had been studying an old Tony Robbins course I’d borrowed from my mother a few weeks earlier. Between job searches I began to study success, spirituality and had started meditating. I had been doing every single exercise he had in that program with a commitment I’d never felt before.
I took a deep breath and calmed myself down. I got out my journal that day, which was aptly titled “The Journey of My Success,” and I turned to the page which read “5 problem solving questions.”
The picture above is the exact page from that journal and all that other crap hanging out is some of the best stuff I’ve ever written down in my life to help me along my journey.
But back to the story…
I went through each question writing down my answers. Here are the questions:
Something shifted in me at that moment and even though I still didn’t know what to do I felt a sense of trust and ease.
I got up from my chair knowing that I didn’t have any gas to drive anywhere and I walked all the way to the college library. It was maybe a 10 minute walk. It was a gorgeous, warm sunny day and as I walked I just appreciated the day and my life. After I spent some time there it was time to head home to get the car so I could go pick my son up from school.
Still unsure of what to do and admittedly a twinge worried, I headed back just trusting that things would work out. Faith was all I had.
I got back to our apartment and checked the mailbox and there in that box were two child support checks!! The automated system had only registered one of them. I was amazed and utterly relieved.
I went to put gas in the car and pick my son up from school. He was happy to see me as usual and totally oblivious to our situation. He talked on about his field trip and we had a fabulous day together. It warmed my heart to know that we were taken care of.
But the goodness doesn’t end there… I got a job that same month. A job which afforded me time in my work day to still read and work on my success practices. I had a spacious desk and a huge window with plenty of sunshine pouring in. And even though I wasn’t returning to school that fall to join the Masters in Family Therapy program I was accepted into, I’d received “out of the blue,” a $5000 scholarship I hadn’t even applied for from the Mayor of Detroit for being an exemplary student. Holy shit…
We’ve all got our stories, we’ve all had our dramas, and our real life struggles. I’ve got a shitload of stories that luckily I can now look back on and supremely appreciate and or laugh at til’ it hurts.
There are probably still going to be times when you don’t know if things are going to work out, there may still be times when you’re scared, there may still be times when you want to crawl into a hole and not come out until things are better, but I’ll tell you those things can become few and far between because… you’re never, ever alone.
There is the human part of you, but there is also the bigger spiritual part of you. You are a spiritual being having a human experience and when you trust that you’re taken care of, I mean really trust… I promise you, you will be.
Don’t ask questions like, Why isn’t anything working? or What’s wrong with me? Those questions dis-empower you.
Don’t bank all your faith on what you hope others are gonna do for you. Put you’re faith in the indwelling power of spirit that is within you. The power that brings great things to you “through” other people. Go directly to the source and you’ll never fail. Ask empowering questions and watch as you’re guided right to the answers. Get the hell outta your own way and let the magic happen…
I love you,